You are correct in that I take on too much myself. Difficulties in communication leads to situations where what I ask for is disregarded or people take offense

You are correct in that I take on too much myself. Difficulties in communication leads to situations where what I ask for is disregarded or people take offense at the idea I'd need or date to ask for accommodations. "Just do it yourself, why do you need help?" "Stop asking questions just do it" These are knee-jerk reaction of neurotypical society and not something I can ever really change (the world is as it is). This pattern of being ignored when I ask for help has led to a negative feedback loop where I avoid asking for help and struggle to get or ask for help when I need it most. > I don't know about the support network for your condition but surely there are some? I am on my second therapist and he's really awesome, I would recommend him highly. I have two local mentors who have also been incredible but there is only so much you can lean on other people for. I have an incredible wife who is being super patient while her husband struggles to be a partner instead of a dependent. > Maybe you just need help with connecting to the right opportunities? Yes. See negative feedback loop above, but if I am lucky enough to connect with decent or like minded people I DO have some success. When I describe these things (desire for a more fair work situation) to people I get responses like "oh so you want the perfect job?" No I just want to be treated with dignity and respect like an adult.