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I've felt very much in limbo for a few years. I'm facing some one-way doors about where I want to spend the next chapter/decade of my life. My reaction is mostl
by wnolens 4y ago
I've felt very much in limbo for a few years. I'm facing some one-way doors about where I want to spend the next chapter/decade of my life. My reaction is mostly of fear.
Move back to my home country where my friends and family are. I only really like the lifestyle of the downtown core of a single city there. I'd give up permanent residency to the U.S. Pay cut would be to 1/3rd my current salary with a similar cost of living - probably never afford to buy a home. But I'd be closer to people I care about. And maybe live a life of not striving for more.
Or stay in the US where I currently am. I'm quite lonely, but enjoy a very comfortable lifestyle and US cities are beautiful and culturally interesting to me. I'm well compensated in my field, and not even near the ceiling. Could retire 15 years earlier here than otherwise. But always feel like I chose to be away from the people I love.
- taesu 4y agotry for 3 months and come back. if you are happier there stay there.
- wnolens 4y agoI did try this. "happy" is complicated for me. I'm perhaps pricing in too much of the future into this decision, but it's pretty life-constraining over the longer term so I think less about the day-to-day and more about future.