I'm sorry, but no. "[Learning] to love" your abuser isn't in any way noble or something to aspire to, particularly when the abuser can never admit their abuse.

I'm sorry, but no. "[Learning] to love" your abuser isn't in any way noble or something to aspire to, particularly when the abuser can never admit their abuse. Frankly, I struggle not to be offended by the idea that the victim, here, is in some way a lesser person by not reconciling with their unapologetic abuser. Sometimes an abuser is just a terrible person and the noble and laudable thing is to find the strength to simply cut ties and move on. The fact that it's a biological parent, in this circumstance, changes that not one bit.