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As I have young children of my own today, I'm faced with these questions. What is a healthy amount of pushing vs too much? What about not at all? The only thin

by narag 4y ago

As I have young children of my own today, I'm faced with these questions. What is a healthy amount of pushing vs too much? What about not at all? The only thing they need to be good, not even best, is the studies that will enable them to work. Just help them if they're falling behind. Os support them if they seem to have a passion for something in particular. But otherwise, let them have a life.

kelnos 4y ago
I wrote about this in a sibling comment to yours, but I think kids should be pushed at least some amount. I wish I could play piano today, but I was too lazy/unfocused to practice as a kid, and so my mom canceled my lessons and I never learned. It's something I wish my mom had pushed me to do back then. Kids don't always know what's best for them, and they will sometimes take short-term satisfaction (not having to endure the monotony of deliberate practice) at the expense of long-term satisfaction (being able to play well after a time). That's not to say parents should always force the issue. Certainly sometimes the kid really is expressing a preference that should be honored. But not always.
- narag 4y ago
  Do you realize you can still learn to play? Maybe not to reach a professional level, but enough to enjoy yourself. I didn't "push" my son. I did teach him myself what I knew, for years. He can play with both hands and sing along. We visited one nearby conservatory where one of his friends was going to study and talk with some teachers. He finally decided to pass. Yes, he's been playing much more Minecraft than piano since then. But now he's finished his second Maths year with flying colors and we're both happy ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Kleto 4y ago
That just sounds lazy. Kids are not able to just learn or discover there world by themselves. I got a ton of influence from my parents and peers just not enough or relatively late. I was not able to just buy a PC and let an electrition install the internet. Suggesting music lessons and instruments is also pushing.

by narag 4y ago

kelnos 4y ago

I wrote about this in a sibling comment to yours, but I think kids should be pushed at least some amount. I wish I could play piano today, but I was too lazy/unfocused to practice as a kid, and so my mom canceled my lessons and I never learned. It's something I wish my mom had pushed me to do back then. Kids don't always know what's best for them, and they will sometimes take short-term satisfaction (not having to endure the monotony of deliberate practice) at the expense of long-term satisfaction (being able to play well after a time). That's not to say parents should always force the issue. Certainly sometimes the kid really is expressing a preference that should be honored. But not always.

narag 4y ago
Do you realize you can still learn to play? Maybe not to reach a professional level, but enough to enjoy yourself. I didn't "push" my son. I did teach him myself what I knew, for years. He can play with both hands and sing along. We visited one nearby conservatory where one of his friends was going to study and talk with some teachers. He finally decided to pass. Yes, he's been playing much more Minecraft than piano since then. But now he's finished his second Maths year with flying colors and we're both happy ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Kleto 4y ago

That just sounds lazy. Kids are not able to just learn or discover there world by themselves. I got a ton of influence from my parents and peers just not enough or relatively late. I was not able to just buy a PC and let an electrition install the internet. Suggesting music lessons and instruments is also pushing.