It's not normal for parents to 'fuck up your childhood'. It is normal for your childhood to be far from ideal because of the flaws of your parents and that is i

It's not normal for parents to 'fuck up your childhood'. It is normal for your childhood to be far from ideal because of the flaws of your parents and that is indeed something many people will have to come to terms with. But the latter is far less damaging than the first: it's like regret vs. something akin to PTSD.