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I sympathize. But if you had pushed them to do anything, chances are not so high you‘d have picked the right things. You might have pushed baseball and chess on
by manmal 4y ago
I sympathize. But if you had pushed them to do anything, chances are not so high you‘d have picked the right things. You might have pushed baseball and chess on them, and they might now be angry that you didn’t make them learn to code instead. Plus there might be additional resentment because forcing humans to do something they don’t like tends to create that.
- khazhoux 4y agoEven pushing baseball, they’d grow up with better physical fitness than sitting at home at day. (Assuming the kid wasn’t already active in something besides baseball)
- kelnos 4y agoNo one is saying you should push kids to do things without compromising at all. There's a wide spectrum between "leave the kid to figure out all their hobbies themselves" and "require that they do the four hobbies that you've picked for them. I think it's absolutely healthy to push kids to a certain extent. That extent is just something that's probably different for every kid and activity, and I get that it's probably hard for a parent to figure out when to push and when to give up.
- manmal 4y ago> No one is saying you should push kids to do things without compromising at all This thread (started by irjustin) is about this though. And, where do you draw the line? I‘m all for encouragement, like: „Ok young one. You had half a year of ballet lessons now. It’s a bit different than you imagined, and you’re often exhausted afterwards. You can quit anytime you want, but how about you give it another shot and see if you can rest more between drills?“ And if she still wants to quit - let her.