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> how they handle stress, their gut reactions, their deepest feelings, their expression of opinion - all very similar to the parent. Do you really think that t
by mcrittenden 15y ago
> how they handle stress, their gut reactions, their deepest feelings, their expression of opinion - all very similar to the parent.
Do you really think that this is true often enough to present it as a blanket rule like that? It seems like a fantastic oversimplification to me.
- run4yourlives 15y agoI'm not a doctor and don't have evidence, but my direct observations seem to suggest that it is in fact true. Let me clarify: I'm not saying that kids are similar to their parents in the outcomes (a parent may like going on bike rides while a child doesn't, for instance), rather I find that the way they process information can be very similar: if a parent tends to react emotionally, then logically to certain cues, the child will emulate, although not to the same particular cues. This gets stronger as the parent molds the child, in that I've found this is more likely the case in "older" children than babies. It's been my experience that once you've identified the key drivers pushing this response, the response between adult and child is almost identical. I'm somewhat ashamed to also confirm that this works even when the parent is yourself.
- jasonlotito 15y ago> Do you really think that this is true often enough to present it as a blanket rule like that? It seems like a fantastic oversimplification to me. Of all the children and parents I know well enough, yes. They all match this mold. Even my own children. They match expectedly and precisely. This, of course, is merely my own observations, and limited in it's scope.