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>Does each child have their own, adequately sized, room with a study desk to work in and concentrate? During the pandemic it turned out to be a real problem tha
by annyeonghada 4y ago
>Does each child have their own, adequately sized, room with a study desk to work in and concentrate? During the pandemic it turned out to be a real problem that children who had to share rooms had issues following streamed lectures.
I had a small that I shared with two brothers. My desk was minuscule. I had top grades.
>Do the children, particularly those of working age (14 and above, but especially 16 and above) have to work actual jobs to make pocket money or contribute to household income?
My family was so poor at a time we didn't have the money to pay the mortgage and the bank wanted to take our house. I had top grades.
>Are the parents largely absent from their children's lives because both parents have to work full-time or worse jobs just to make ends meet?
My parents were and are apathetic to my existence. I had top grades.
>Can the parents invest time and money into furthering their children's education? Can they sit together with them in the afternoon/evening and work through homework problems? Can they afford side education, playing instruments or similar activities that have been shown to have a positive effect on education?
None of that existed in my house. Nobody helped me doing homework and nobody sit with me exploring my life path. I rented instruments and asked as few money as possible. I had top grades.
>Do the parents have enough money to feed the children? Hundreds of thousands of students alone in New York depend on schools handing out free lunches, which turned out to be a massive problem during the pandemic.
Admittedly, even in poverty we never were hungry.
>Poverty causes stress - not just from being cooped together in too small living spaces, but also in food insecurity, increased fights between parents over the stress, or in the worst cases from literally being homeless.
This I wholeheartedly agree, that's why the "money doesn't make you happy" is such a lie.
I know my tone was rather flippant but the relationship between money, stress and academics is so important to me. And by the way, even after all these top grades, and a Physics degree and speaking English, French, Italian and German and whatever I haven't escaped poverty. I'm back living to my parents at 27. It seems like the best way to make money in Italy is to inherit it.
- sodality2 4y agoHave you considered that your experience is entirely anecdotal and statistically someone in your place is less likely to succeed in general, not guaranteed to fail?
- Terry_Roll 4y agoDid anyone get their exams paper's back and check the answer's against text books? If you didnt, how did you know your grade is accurate? I was living in a four man tent during my exams, fortunately I had it to myself. Not the best situation to be in but its made me hyper aware of how corrupt the criminals running the world are.
- arbitrary_name 4y ago"I did it so there is no excuse for anyone else" Your response appears utterly useless in this discussion except to highlight that even those who grew up in poverty cannot be expected to have any empathy for those who share a similar background.
- Jensson 4y agoIt is an example that nature absolutely can overcome nurture. Kids in similar situations usually fails, yes, but if they were talented enough they would have succeeded just like that guy. You can still have empathy for them and see that they struggle, no kids should have to go through that in an ideal world, but you can't say that those kids fails only because of that situation as we can show plenty of examples where talented kids makes it through. We should help all kids from poverty, but we shouldn't ignore the huge factor talents plays in how well they will perform in school. Saying things like "rich kids only do well because they get good support" is ignorant. That support helps, but parts of it is genes as well, both are important factors, and understanding how those factors interacts is important to give each kid the best help they can get.