I think that in your tweens your identity is more tied up with music than later on. In my and my friends' case we would literally define ourselves in terms of m

I think that in your tweens your identity is more tied up with music than later on. In my and my friends' case we would literally define ourselves in terms of music: the bands we'd listen to signalled a lot about who we were and how we felt about the world. I guess if you do that, you're also more emotionally invested in the music.