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4 kids here. The first is a bit of a shock. I think it’s mostly because people rightly fear the unknown, but then react by buying way too much stuff. But really
by D13Fd 4y ago
4 kids here. The first is a bit of a shock. I think it’s mostly because people rightly fear the unknown, but then react by buying way too much stuff. But really there is no need for it to “collapse” a household due to the need to manage objects/things.
Kids really don’t need that much. Clothes, a place to sleep, food, some toys. A car seat. Diapers and wipes. Babies need bottles, and the mother needs a pump if she is working (as most do) unless you’re doing formula. It’s not as much as it seems.
The biggest shock is the cost of daycare IMO, which can easily exceed the cost of a mortgage in some areas of you have multiple kids (or maybe even with one).
- number6 4y agoWe have two; we one though of having 4, but the curve from one to two is immense. Is it getting better or better is the incline less steep with 3 and 4?
- teilo 4y agoI reared 6, with 2 still at home. It all depends. With a stay at home parent, the curve is shallow. You're likely already got the vehicle you need for transport. Insurance does not go up after 2. So it's just food, clothing, and bunk beds at that point. It's all a matter of life choices. As they get older, if you rear them right, you have built-in baby sitters. Some will point out college. Again, it's a matter of life choices. All mine decided to learn a trade, and so far are very successful at that. The oldest at home is presently apprenticing to be a small aircraft mechanic.
- D13Fd 4y agoWe both work. For me, 0->1 was a big change, and 1->2 and up each felt like smaller changes. But I expect it’s different for everyone!