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WTF??? No one has stated the obvious yet, so here it goes... You're telling me that you're 20, have essentially no disposabal cash, you're NOT currently in col

by FunGus 18y ago

WTF??? No one has stated the obvious yet, so here it goes... You're telling me that you're 20, have essentially no disposabal cash, you're NOT currently in college, and you're wondering why it's so hard to connect with an attractive 18-24yo woman??? JEEEZ! First of all, a guy your age shouldn't be trying to get into any sort of extended relationship in the first place. That's insane. This is the age you're supposed to enjoy the myriad delights of countless, nameless women. Already done that you say?? Keep doing it. TRUST ME. Second, you can't get "hurt" after a single date unless she bluntly calls you a "fucking idiot." And then only if you're a pussy. But let's say despite my first point you still insit on trying to find a girl with soul... Buddy, it's time to grow the fuck up. Your financial situation is completely unacceptable to women unless you're a student. You're not going to be able to land a quality woman based on your guitar playing and fun attitude alone. Those days are gone. Women in this demographic are getting MUCH better offers than what you've apparently got going. This demo happens to be in very high demand by guys twith a lot more going on than you do. And yeah, most of them are "older." So, if you really want to pursue this, you're going to shuffle your priorities around and START MAKING SOME MONEY! Or hell, if you have it stashed away start spending some of it. And no, I'm not talking about buying better clothes or cologne (though that's not a bad idea!). Instead, I'm suggesting that you take whatever financial, physical or intellectual resources you have and make some BIG moves-in the stock market, technology, IP, start-up, whatever. Use the enormous energy of your youth to bust your ass 12 to 16 hours a day - or more. (It's nearly impossible to do it after you're 30.) Then, as your future takes shape, and money and purpose start flooding in, finding a cool girl that wants to stick around will be EASY. In fact, if you execute the next 10 years of your life correctly, your "problem" with women will be of an entirely different kind. And Jeez, one of your dates was kind enough to explain this right to your face: "[money is] what I need right now." By the way, I hope you don't take this as a FLAME. I'm telling you this because I'm rooting for you. :-)

alnayyir 18y ago
I have plenty of disposable income, I just save a lot of money. I just had my business (I was self employed) crash after a two year run, and I'm cleaning up the wreckage right now. I'm going back to college fairly soon. I already have enough saved up to live off of and pay a full year's tuition. I don't play guitar. My ex appreciated my personality just fine, actually, she loved me dearly, we just couldn't work because of the obscene distance (Canada). I'm sorry if being appreciated for who I am is too much to expect out of the average woman. All I care about is money, it already is a priority. Hence, business that recently failed. Hence, having plenty of money saved up. That chica thought I was poor. I live extremely frugally. My bank account is just fine. her fault for being stupid. I could afford on my income to pay all of her bills and food, all my bills and food, and all the bills and food of one of my roommates, and still have one or two hundred left over for random bullshit. And that's not dipping into savings. I'm planning on getting a nicer car, tbh. My car is too ugly. I hate to get rid of something that 'works', but it's just so fuck-ugly that I've got to get into a better vehicle. I was thinking about getting into more like an '02 year car, rather than my 91' Olds. I've been poking around for a second job. A second job would catapult me into school in fairly short order. That or a car. I'll start another business when the right opportunity or idea comes along. Most of my best ideas require 100-150k. I don't have that much. Not taking it as a flame, it's just that through no fault of your own, you made some miscalculated assumptions about me. I give off the appearance of poverty on purpose when in fact I have more money in my bank account than my father who earns twice what I do. If a relationship is to be a purely mercenary transaction then I'd rather be alone or buy a wife from another country. I don't tolerate that kind of banal materialism in my girlfriends. Again, I had a woman who understand and shared my values and appreciated me for who I am absent all other things. I don't see what's so hard about not being a completely vacant cavity of a person.

by FunGus 18y ago

alnayyir 18y ago

I have plenty of disposable income, I just save a lot of money. I just had my business (I was self employed) crash after a two year run, and I'm cleaning up the wreckage right now. I'm going back to college fairly soon. I already have enough saved up to live off of and pay a full year's tuition. I don't play guitar. My ex appreciated my personality just fine, actually, she loved me dearly, we just couldn't work because of the obscene distance (Canada). I'm sorry if being appreciated for who I am is too much to expect out of the average woman. All I care about is money, it already is a priority. Hence, business that recently failed. Hence, having plenty of money saved up. That chica thought I was poor. I live extremely frugally. My bank account is just fine. her fault for being stupid. I could afford on my income to pay all of her bills and food, all my bills and food, and all the bills and food of one of my roommates, and still have one or two hundred left over for random bullshit. And that's not dipping into savings. I'm planning on getting a nicer car, tbh. My car is too ugly. I hate to get rid of something that 'works', but it's just so fuck-ugly that I've got to get into a better vehicle. I was thinking about getting into more like an '02 year car, rather than my 91' Olds. I've been poking around for a second job. A second job would catapult me into school in fairly short order. That or a car. I'll start another business when the right opportunity or idea comes along. Most of my best ideas require 100-150k. I don't have that much. Not taking it as a flame, it's just that through no fault of your own, you made some miscalculated assumptions about me. I give off the appearance of poverty on purpose when in fact I have more money in my bank account than my father who earns twice what I do. If a relationship is to be a purely mercenary transaction then I'd rather be alone or buy a wife from another country. I don't tolerate that kind of banal materialism in my girlfriends. Again, I had a woman who understand and shared my values and appreciated me for who I am absent all other things. I don't see what's so hard about not being a completely vacant cavity of a person.