Yeah this is my first thought when I read this. Calling others narcissists is more often a red flag for the accuser than the accusee in my opinion. Narcissism

Yeah this is my first thought when I read this. Calling others narcissists is more often a red flag for the accuser than the accusee in my opinion. Narcissism is a spectrum just like every other personality trait, not some binary thing that some people are and some people aren't. And you don't really want to be on either extreme of that spectrum in my opinion. I think the term is often used to mean "someone who isn't giving me what I want so I'm going to pathologize my not liking them". That being said, there are certainly people who are subjectively obnoxiously narcissistic and I'm sure in a clinical setting you find true outliers who are deeply pathological.