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> Following that dramedy, I packed my belongings and embarked on a nomadic lifestyle in which I lived in multiple co-living spaces and met a wide and authentic

> Following that dramedy, I packed my belongings and embarked on a nomadic lifestyle in which I lived in multiple co-living spaces and met a wide and authentic group of people. Oookay, feels a bit "pot calling the kettle black" here, not really sure what the point of this article really was, other than to exclaim, "Narcissism exists!"

RyJones 4y ago
People need affirmation. I am people; therefore, affirm me? I don’t know. It was a slog to read.
notahacker 4y ago
Yeah, reading through the first few paragraphs made me think: this is the sort of thing a clever writer puts together before revealing at the end the only narcissist is the person who believes their relationship broke down because of irredeeemable flaws in the other person alone, responded to encountering an impressive individual by furiously searching for gaps in their resume, and maintained an "almost-healthy" transactional relationship with a formerly popular friend as all that person's other relationships soured by constantly letting them have the "credit" for stuff until that person eventually confronted them... But tbf to the author, who is presumably a real person and not a narcissist, I thought the second part was quite well written without that twist :) The general point seems to be that "narcissism exists and is more common and a less clearly defined than the mirror-watching psychopath of popular perception", although perhaps that's a bit too nuanced for parts of the HN audience now furiously insisting that people exhibiting narcissistic traits, unlike people with other spectrum disorders, must be regarded as irredeemable and avoided at all costs...
cirrus3 4y ago
yep, this person has bigger issues with themselves that others. Millions (Billions?) of other people seem to navigate the world without having to go to a "nomadic lifestyle in which I lived in multiple co-living spaces"... as if that is even a remotely possible option the vast amount of people out there in similar situations. OP has problems, blames other, is entitled, needs to grow TF up

RyJones 4y ago

People need affirmation. I am people; therefore, affirm me? I don’t know. It was a slog to read.

notahacker 4y ago

Yeah, reading through the first few paragraphs made me think: this is the sort of thing a clever writer puts together before revealing at the end the only narcissist is the person who believes their relationship broke down because of irredeeemable flaws in the other person alone, responded to encountering an impressive individual by furiously searching for gaps in their resume, and maintained an "almost-healthy" transactional relationship with a formerly popular friend as all that person's other relationships soured by constantly letting them have the "credit" for stuff until that person eventually confronted them... But tbf to the author, who is presumably a real person and not a narcissist, I thought the second part was quite well written without that twist :) The general point seems to be that "narcissism exists and is more common and a less clearly defined than the mirror-watching psychopath of popular perception", although perhaps that's a bit too nuanced for parts of the HN audience now furiously insisting that people exhibiting narcissistic traits, unlike people with other spectrum disorders, must be regarded as irredeemable and avoided at all costs...

cirrus3 4y ago

yep, this person has bigger issues with themselves that others. Millions (Billions?) of other people seem to navigate the world without having to go to a "nomadic lifestyle in which I lived in multiple co-living spaces"... as if that is even a remotely possible option the vast amount of people out there in similar situations. OP has problems, blames other, is entitled, needs to grow TF up