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> even though I knew that what they were really saying was that I was “articulate for being Black” I can understand where this comes from, but I also wonder, h
by sojournerc 4y ago
> even though I knew that what they were really saying was that I was “articulate for being Black”
I can understand where this comes from, but I also wonder, how could one honestly compliment someone like the author for being articulate without it being taken this way? I sense it as someone having a chip on their shoulder (maybe for good reason), but it seems some folks are looking for offense when none is intended.
- yhoneycomb 4y agoWhen was the last time you've heard a non-black person described as articulate? I can't think of any, personally.
- sojournerc 4y agoWell, maybe you should meet more people? I have black cousins whom I would absolutely describe as articulate.
- cgriswald 4y agoWould you remember if you had?
- yhoneycomb 4y agoYes, I'm not a goldfish.
- LAC-Tech 4y agoIf you can tell someone has a chip on their shoulder, I'd just steer clear of them in general. It's not your job to carefully craft compliments so they don't get upset.
- mcphage 4y ago> ow could one honestly compliment someone like the author for being articulate without it being taken this way Maybe, just don’t? Compliment them about something else instead.
- cgriswald 4y agoGeneric praise is kind of useless in the first place. Make your compliments specific. "You said, '<something you enjoyed>.' What a clever turn of phrase!"