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I hate pathologizing, I whine a lot about it on HN, but for some people, narcissism is pathological and no amount of service towards others will give them persp

I hate pathologizing, I whine a lot about it on HN, but for some people, narcissism is pathological and no amount of service towards others will give them perspective. I once knew a self-described narcissist who was proud of the fact. At one point, doing volunteer work benefited them, possibly for college credit or something, I forget. Their lesson from serving in a soup kitchen? "The homeless people didn't thank me enough, they're all so greedy and should be more thankful that I'm giving them food instead of doing something better with my time."

PeterisP 4y ago
The service (and traditional community) solution to narcissism doesn't seem to based on the expectation that they'll change by doing that service; but rather having the circumstances highlight that behavior and solving the narcissism problem in the community either by kicking the narcissists out or by forcing them to change with credible threats of violence for continuing such behavior.