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I hear you. The one problem with being so useful is that all problems slide your way. While it is hard to hear, you might be enabling the problem. If everyone

I hear you. The one problem with being so useful is that all problems slide your way. While it is hard to hear, you might be enabling the problem. If everyone believes you know the best way or are the most efficient problem solver, they will default to you. There's long maintenance tails in certain problems... so even if you are great at what you do it can quickly become overwhelming. Making opportunities for others will improve your peer group, improve your life and reduce your stress. Loneliness is not going to be fixed overnight, and certainly is not "one more thing I got to fix". Give people space, time and mentorship to grow. If you don't see progress after doing this, move on. Perhaps you've been too long in your role.

100011_100001 4y ago
A lot of people have made comments similar to yours. I do help others, but I could be doing a better job.
- omgJustTest 4y ago
  Disclosure: I struggle with this particular issue a lot, so I might just be sharing my personal struggles and seeing them in your conflict. Changing some of the words that you use to describe interactions helps us change their influence. "Helping others" is not exactly what I intended to say. I meant to say "help yourself". Become self-reliant (as you know you are) but that also means removing some of the pride you take from doing your job well. Allow others to be self-reliant, and imagine if you did not feel self-sufficient. That you needed some 'expert' help to do your job. This empathetic perspective comes from selfishness... as it should. Spend your time in a way that replaces the short-term payoff of pride in your work to overall life satisfaction.