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> It's not a recipe for anything except burnout and depression. Staking your ego on being the "guy who knows a lot about technology/concept x" is even worse. >

> It's not a recipe for anything except burnout and depression. Staking your ego on being the "guy who knows a lot about technology/concept x" is even worse. > the anti-corporate "the system is for losers, follow your passion" shit that was shoved down our throat as teenagers and young adults. My experience is that I'm not doing something I love (to some degree), that's what leads to burnout and depression. I know from some experience. And if I'm not also taking risks, I also become depressed and burnt out; I feel stagnated. Taking risks and failing is just much harder than it seems in the romantic stories, and certainly I need to moderate it to meet my tolerance for risk and failure, and I work hard to grow that tolerance and resiliance so that I can do more. Certainly you shouldn't stake your ego on its success - IME a sure way to make it unbearable - but in the effort, in doing the best you can, and in your growth. Risk is scary and failure hurts, but they are living, and I would miss a big part of the experience if I avoided them. There's no other way to grow, to learn about myself: what I love, what I don't, what I do well and don't; what suits me and doesn't. Also essential to the learning is not blaming others for my choices and their consequences - that is depression and, in a sense, burnout. We need to each find what suits us. I'll just say that ironically, the parent is a bitter and burnt-out comment. Is the path of avoiding risk actually safe from that? IME, there is no easy path through. > make sure to keep time for your wife (or husband) and kids Agreed! Hopefully, that is a primary passion for anyone.

AussieWog93 4y ago
>We need to each find what suits us. I'll just say that ironically, the parent is a bitter and burnt-out comment. Is the path of avoiding risk actually safe from that? IME, there is no easy path through. Oh, don't get me wrong. I run two actual, profitable businesses and aren't advocating for complete risk avoidance. I'm criticising specifically the "I kind of enjoy playing the guitar, therefore music is my passion, therefore I must study music and get a job as a musician and if I get a regular day job and start a family then I've failed" attitude that's shoved down young people's throats.
- wolverine876 4y ago
  > I'm criticising specifically the "I kind of enjoy playing the guitar, therefore music is my passion, therefore I must study music and get a job as a musician and if I get a regular day job and start a family then I've failed" attitude that's shoved down young people's throats. Where do you see that message? People of that age that I know don't seem to think it. One person quit their engineering job and went to art school, but had no illusions. They found a steady, corporate day job using their art skills and setup their studio at home. Someone else has always loved playing bass and music, and quit their programming job to give it a try. Again, no illusions, but they are at least going to give it their all. I really admire that.

AussieWog93 4y ago

>We need to each find what suits us. I'll just say that ironically, the parent is a bitter and burnt-out comment. Is the path of avoiding risk actually safe from that? IME, there is no easy path through. Oh, don't get me wrong. I run two actual, profitable businesses and aren't advocating for complete risk avoidance. I'm criticising specifically the "I kind of enjoy playing the guitar, therefore music is my passion, therefore I must study music and get a job as a musician and if I get a regular day job and start a family then I've failed" attitude that's shoved down young people's throats.

wolverine876 4y ago
> I'm criticising specifically the "I kind of enjoy playing the guitar, therefore music is my passion, therefore I must study music and get a job as a musician and if I get a regular day job and start a family then I've failed" attitude that's shoved down young people's throats. Where do you see that message? People of that age that I know don't seem to think it. One person quit their engineering job and went to art school, but had no illusions. They found a steady, corporate day job using their art skills and setup their studio at home. Someone else has always loved playing bass and music, and quit their programming job to give it a try. Again, no illusions, but they are at least going to give it their all. I really admire that.