This is my experience. They can be good emotional support resources but often develop an orthodoxy unsupported by science and enforced through shaming/berating

This is my experience. They can be good emotional support resources but often develop an orthodoxy unsupported by science and enforced through shaming/berating (e.g. people with lupus shouldn’t drink orange juice or supplement with vitamin C, and similar nonsense). My advice is read all you can to thoroughly understand what’s happening to you - The Lupus Book by Dr. Wallace, The Lupus Encyclopedia by Dr. Thomas are two great compendiums and candidates for Kindle. Then find support resources that look at the condition as something that can be and should be managed, eschewing the mesmerizing appeal of self-pity and one-upsmanship with symptoms. The fact is that managing lupus puts a higher priority than normies have on diet, fitness, sleep, mental and physical stress management, and UV exposure. Ordering your own blood work - understanding the tests that are valuable and how to diagnose results is also a good practice for taking charge of your condition - i.e. what are the early warning signs that my kidneys may be “silently” failing; what are my baseline CBC numbers, specifically white blood cells, and can I provide those to a GP/PCP on the fly; etc. Social media, I found, doesn’t really advance what is mostly a solo journey to preserve function through daily mental and physical discipline. However, another thing I’ve come to appreciate is that most (healthy) people don’t enjoy listening to stories about medical problems, and if you just need to tell your story and get some brief positivity and empathy, online groups can fill that need.