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> and pretty much in the same way This is the dismissive part. It doesn’t even affect those of us with ADHD the same way, or even affect us each individually t

> and pretty much in the same way This is the dismissive part. It doesn’t even affect those of us with ADHD the same way, or even affect us each individually the same way every day. At my best, I’ve been pretty consistently praised for being good at keeping track of how everything fits together and all of the details that should be considered for a given effort. At my worst, I know there’s a short list of things which will pass as functioning if I can bring myself to follow through with it. Neither of those extremes are normal everyday experiences for most people. And that’s good, and it’s understandable you recognize the wide gamut in between. I don’t want to dismiss your much broader more general experience either. I just want to push back on the thing that feels invisible for those of us who aren’t actually experiencing that broader more general thing.

sibeliuss 4y ago
I honestly didn't mean to come across as dismissive. Taking the OPs words exactly as they were written, I only meant to say that generally speaking, those responses are all quite expected, independent of any diagnosis. Having ADHD could of course make each of those bullet points much worse! But as the post was written, it seemed like textbook dissatisfaction that all of us experience when placed in a role that isn't quite right, and when that happens it's often easier to check out or become distracted. I don't see how ADHD stratagems could alleviate this without increasing unhappiness lower down. In the end, if you're not doing whats right for you then figuring out how to focus better is the real distraction.
- eyelidlessness 4y ago
  I hope my response helps you understand why those things which seem universal aren’t necessarily universal for us. A lot of times we’re just disappointed with ourselves because we’re not experiencing the thing the way “everyone” does, and can’t find a way to that feeling everyone else expects.

sibeliuss 4y ago

I honestly didn't mean to come across as dismissive. Taking the OPs words exactly as they were written, I only meant to say that generally speaking, those responses are all quite expected, independent of any diagnosis. Having ADHD could of course make each of those bullet points much worse! But as the post was written, it seemed like textbook dissatisfaction that all of us experience when placed in a role that isn't quite right, and when that happens it's often easier to check out or become distracted. I don't see how ADHD stratagems could alleviate this without increasing unhappiness lower down. In the end, if you're not doing whats right for you then figuring out how to focus better is the real distraction.

eyelidlessness 4y ago
I hope my response helps you understand why those things which seem universal aren’t necessarily universal for us. A lot of times we’re just disappointed with ourselves because we’re not experiencing the thing the way “everyone” does, and can’t find a way to that feeling everyone else expects.