3 ms·
As a very logical person who developed social intelligence much later in life. One very surprising thing I noticed, unthinkable to my younger self, is that many
by analyst74 4y ago
As a very logical person who developed social intelligence much later in life. One very surprising thing I noticed, unthinkable to my younger self, is that many people only engage with people they are interested in.
If upon initial judgement and they find you not interesting, they basically tune you out, and won't attempt to find out what interesting things you have to say.
- chasd00 4y ago> If upon initial judgement and they find you not interesting, they basically tune you out, and won't attempt to find out what interesting things you have to say. if they find you not interesting then why would they hang around? They've already made the decision. To them, you'll have nothing interesting to say ever.
- the_only_law 4y ago> if they find you not interesting then why would they hang around? I currently have the issue of appearing interesting, but not actually being so in reality. It’s shocking how many people approach me these fast, but for the most party anything will fall apart outside highly casual acquaintances.
- elzbardico 4y agoOn the other side, you only need to be really interesting once, or at most a few times. After they judge you attention-worthy you can basically stay quiet and they will drive the conversation for you, speaking as if there's no tomorrow.