I call bias and filtering on your side. Online, people behave far more awful than IRL. Probably you filter this by labeling it as trolling or immature, or by s

I call bias and filtering on your side. Online, people behave far more awful than IRL. Probably you filter this by labeling it as trolling or immature, or by selection. People IRL are more focused on "harmonizing", because there is usually a more direct consequence for bad behavior. In the worst case, it's souring your relationship with people you need to live with, which most people simply don't want. But this is not a bad thing, because being too critical can be very toxic and harmful. IRL people are more focused on stability than letting the world burn, because they don't need to experience the consequences. This on the other side has the strange effect of hyperfocused attention and opinions. People are more limited to their own filter-bubble, being very uncritical of their own bubble, but hypercritical of everything outside.