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> A simple ideal that may be useful for each party to adopt could be - "do unto others as you would like done unto you". The problem with the golden rule is th

> A simple ideal that may be useful for each party to adopt could be - "do unto others as you would like done unto you". The problem with the golden rule is that it is still self-centered. What I may like is not the same as what others may like. "Do unto others as they would have done unto them" is better. It makes one have to understand and anticipate others' desires, and update your understanding of others constantly. "As you would like done unto you" is only useful as a first approximation when you have exactly zero idea of what the other may desire.

yjftsjthsd-h 4y ago
That's easy enough to solve; simply conclude that the way you like to be treated is for other people to try and understand what you want and to take that into account. (Granted, yes, lacking direct information it makes sense to try and fill in with projection.)
throw7 4y ago
That was introduced to me as the "platinum rule" and in such a way that stated that the "golden rule" was wrong. I'd say neither is wrong, and one is not better than the other. In fact, both are trying to help understand and communicate with each other effectively.
- Cd00d 4y ago
  I'm a little confused - why does the existence of platinum cast gold as negative? Both are "positive" elements, but one may have greater value than the other. Maybe that's not what you meant though.
- BeetleB 4y ago
  > That was introduced to me as the "platinum rule" and in such a way that stated that the "golden rule" was wrong. Heh. I often refer to it as "the bronze rule" for similar reasons (as in gold, silver, bronze medals). It's a useful rule, but not the best rule. The Golden Rule has gotten me into trouble way too often. At some point you realize that how you want to be treated is not how a significant portion of the population (perhaps the majority) want to be treated.

yjftsjthsd-h 4y ago

That's easy enough to solve; simply conclude that the way you like to be treated is for other people to try and understand what you want and to take that into account. (Granted, yes, lacking direct information it makes sense to try and fill in with projection.)

throw7 4y ago

That was introduced to me as the "platinum rule" and in such a way that stated that the "golden rule" was wrong. I'd say neither is wrong, and one is not better than the other. In fact, both are trying to help understand and communicate with each other effectively.

Cd00d 4y ago
I'm a little confused - why does the existence of platinum cast gold as negative? Both are "positive" elements, but one may have greater value than the other. Maybe that's not what you meant though.
BeetleB 4y ago
> That was introduced to me as the "platinum rule" and in such a way that stated that the "golden rule" was wrong. Heh. I often refer to it as "the bronze rule" for similar reasons (as in gold, silver, bronze medals). It's a useful rule, but not the best rule. The Golden Rule has gotten me into trouble way too often. At some point you realize that how you want to be treated is not how a significant portion of the population (perhaps the majority) want to be treated.