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As the sibling poster said: >squash any trace of "but than I won't be the authentic me" excuse. This is super important. We, for lack of a better phrase, live
by quartesixte 4y ago
As the sibling poster said:
>squash any trace of "but than I won't be the authentic me" excuse.
This is super important. We, for lack of a better phrase, live in a society. And that means getting along with others in that society even though you might have to put on a false front from time to time. Other people will construct their own image of you that you will find to be inaccurate anyways, no matter how honest you may be.
The key I learned (for I used to be like you) was to just talk less. Not everything must be said. Preserves my honesty (I didn’t lie, I merely kept quiet). Preserves the peace. And so on.
- nils-m-holm 4y agoI is indeed very interesting that (at least) two readers conflate "honest" with "rude" even when I noted that this is not what I meant. FWIW, I am a very silent and very careful and empathetic person. The reason I do not fit in is that I these seem to be rare traits. Appreciated, sure, reciprocated, barely.
- s1artibartfast 4y agoI think a lot of people make this conflation because they live honest lives and haven't experienced your outcome. It is hard to understand why you received such a poor reaction to your honesty. Perhaps luck of the draw and it worked out poorly. I think I am pretty damn honest and my experience is that the more honest I am, the better my life becomes. This holds true in my work, my relationships, and most importantly with myself