Are you socializing as in getting to know and enjoy your group, or more signaling your preferred method of socializing? This gets really close to where "be you

Are you socializing as in getting to know and enjoy your group, or more signaling your preferred method of socializing? This gets really close to where "be yourself" and "vibe with others" can violently collide, and it's work-related in the end, which also raises the stakes. I think I'd make it less of a binary decision and take other steps instead. Maybe it's not if, but how, when, and where for example.