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I learned some hungarian in my 20s. Tough language, but so beautiful. I'd say there are some very weird things about the language. I had to wait until my secon

I learned some hungarian in my 20s. Tough language, but so beautiful. I'd say there are some very weird things about the language. I had to wait until my second semester to be able to say "I have X". There's no such verb as "having" in hungarian, but you use possessive + being to indicate you have something. And we only learnt possessive suffixes in 2nd semester. I'd say that something that helped a lot was that in early 2000s there wasn't that much people speaking English in Budapest. So, no cheating. But also, trying to speak Hungarian would get people smiling at you for trying. People would say "But Hungarian is the most difficult language in the world!" (maybe not true, but I'd hear that a lot). After a year and a half, I could communicate with my Mother in law, with some mistakes, but enough to get around and get complimented on my skills. Couldn't continue living in Budapest, had to return to my home country in Latin America. But later in life, got the opportunity to move to Berlin. I thought "Well, I learnt Hungarian, I can learn German". How wrong I was. Being able to cheat (Everybody speaks English) and trying to do this in your 30's is much harder. Not only that, I guess what what made everything just not worthy was Germans giving you shit every time you make a mistake, or your 5-vowel mother language makes it hard to pronounce things. Not only that, but then if you make mistakes you get judged immediately as somebody that "didn't want to integrate". People would generalize and now, after 10 years. With 2 half-german daughters I don't want to learn the language.

ricardobayes 4y ago
Being a native speaker I never considered the example you mention, but it's definitely weird. To express "I have X" in Hungarian you would say "There is X", but X has an extra letter 'm', usually with an accent of the letter before it. "There is an apple" = "Van egy alma" "I have an apple" = "Van egy almám" As the article pointed out Hungarian language possibly has origins in Kazahstan and Mongolia, there is some similarity in the names of places to present-day Hungarian words (Alma Ata, Ulan Bator). alma = apple ata (atya) = father bator (bátor) = brave No one is quite sure as proto-Hungarians wandered the steppes and left no written notes. What we know is they spent a lot of time in Levédia, present day Ukraine and Russia by the river Volga. https://hu.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lev%C3%A9dia https://hu.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lev%C3%A9dia (article in hungarian)
cyberpunk 4y ago
> Not only that, I guess what what made everything just not worthy was Germans giving you shit every time you make a mistake, or your 5-vowel mother language makes it hard to pronounce things. Not only that, but then if you make mistakes you get judged immediately as somebody that "didn't want to integrate". This isn't my experience at all, as a non-native German speaker living in Berlin with a half German child. > People would generalize and now, after 10 years. With 2 half-german daughters I don't want to learn the language. Trust me, you're being judged (fairly, imo) a lot more harshly for living somewhere for a decade and not even bothering to learn the local language.
- aa-jv 4y ago
  Its a lot harder to be an English-speaker living in Germany than you might think. NOBODY wants to listen to your shitty botched German (and trust me, it'll be botched for a while) and instead, almost everyone you meet will want to practice their English instead. All it takes is a few sentences in German, though, before the judgement dissipates and the "lets take the piss out of this guy speaking German by speaking 'perfect' English at a much higher level of competence" takes over .. It adds up though. Speak your shitty German to strangers, and you'll gain a lot more friends.
- diegoeche 4y ago
  > Trust me, you're being judged (fairly, imo) a lot more harshly for living somewhere for a decade and not even bothering to learn the local language. I had 2 years in Goethe institute. And had lessons 2 times a week at work. Kept a handbook at all times with vocabulary to repeat it in the subway. And mingled with German people to escape the expat bubble. I'm in B1 in German standards. But that's precisely the same judgement of "not even bothering" I normally get. After so much of that, after 3 years I just gave up.
aa-jv 4y ago
English-as-mother-tongue speaker here, currently living in a German-speaking country, also with two kids who have been raised with both English and German spoken in our household, giving them a huge edge at school with near-perfect English scores since day one .. My experience with the Germans not wanting to speak German with you while you stumble over everything, is simply that they want to exercise their own English, and its just not as fun for them to wait for your marble-mouthed nonsense to parse. ;) But its not, in my experience, due to any xenophobia or general prejudice - more of a fact that its a lot of fun to speak a non-native language with a native-speaker. Germans are after that "I can speak English well enough!" acknowledgement, which - unless you've really, really studied hard for it - you won't really get to experience, either, speaking German .. for a few years, I imagine. But, its really important to keep up your skills no matter what your friends and family do to dissuade you. I'm at the point, 15 years into life in a German-speaking country, where I can speak near-flawless German with strangers consistently, but any time I try with someone who is familiar with me, it turns into an embarrassing mess .. But I encourage you to keep trying, its really fun!
- NanoCoaster 4y ago
  > My experience with the Germans not wanting to speak German with you while you stumble over everything, is simply that they want to exercise their own English, and its just not as fun for them to wait for your marble-mouthed nonsense to parse. ;) As a German, my reason for switching to English quickly was always along the lines of "oh no, they're struggling to communicate with me! I feel bad. Let's make it easier for everyone and switch to English". This applies especially when talking to English native speakers, but, weirdly enough, also for others - I feel better when I also have to suffer by talking in a non-native language. Doesn't really make sense, I know :) I've talked to other Germans about this a few times and many of them agreed that this was their way of thinking in these situations. I get that this behavior can come across as condescending and I absolutely understand the frustration about it when trying to exercise one's German skills. So nowadays, when this happens (which is quite rare anyway), I try to just stick to German. I'm a bit puzzled why people would learn German out of all languages anyway, apart from living here obviously, so I'm always happy when someone does. Also, I obviously can't speak for the whole German population and sadly there's definitely some xenophobia to be found wherever you look.
egeozcan 4y ago
> I'd say there are some very weird things about the language. I had to wait until my second semester to be able to say "I have X". There's no such verb as "having" in hungarian, but you use possessive + being to indicate you have something. And we only learnt possessive suffixes in 2nd semester. The same is also true for Turkish: Bende elma var = I have an apple Bende = Ben (me) - de (possesive), elma = apple, var = exists. Turkish also has a lot of common words with Hungarian and no gender also like in Hungarian. Even the politics look as bad as each other, hehe. Sometimes I think there must be some more connection to these 2 societies than what you can find in Wikipedia. I speak little to none Hungarian, and a lot of Turkish, and this broken English you can read here but I disagree, learning German wasn't that hard and for all the errors I make when speaking, nobody bats an eye. Edit: I realize you said Berlin. Oh man, what can I tell you... There, I also had hard time speaking German, and the first mistake you make they directly switch to English to be friendly. There's something like overshooting it when you are being helpful to foreigners :) I tried to order beer and said "Bier bitte!" and the waitress asked, in English, "You want a beer?", same happened when asking for directions. This never ever happens in Hessen and I sort of like it that way. Disclaimer: Author is a person of somewhat Turkish origin living happily in Germany who also loves the Hungarian language and culture.
- dmurray 4y ago
  > The same is also true for Turkish: Something similar in Irish: Tá úll agam = is (an) apple at me. In this case it's the preposition "ag" that gets conjugated differently for at me, at you, at him... instead of the subject as in Turkish or the object in the Hungarian example. Agat = at you. Or for feelings: Tá ocras orm = is hunger on me. Ort = on you. Children learn example sentences like these early in their mandatory Irish classes, though they don't start to memorize the lists of conjugations until a few years later. This seems like a reasonable approach, but the classes are staggeringly ineffective at actually teaching the language so we must be doing something wrong. It's interesting how often m means me, and t or d means thou, across all kinds of European languages.
  - DonaldFisk 4y ago
    > Tá úll agam = is (an) apple at me. In this case it's the preposition "ag" that gets conjugated differently for at me, at you, at him... instead of the subject as in Turkish or the object in the Hungarian example. Agat = at you. > Or for feelings: Tá ocras orm = is hunger on me. Ort = on you. Same, except for spelling differences, for its very close relative, Scottish Gaelic. > It's interesting how often m means me, and t or d means thou, across all kinds of European languages. Most European languages are related, but it also applies to Finnish: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Finnish_verb_conjugation https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Finnish_verb_conjugation , which is not Indoeuropean. Also, the Etruscan (also non-Indoeuropean) first person pronoun is "mi": "mi spanti larices" = I am Larice's plate". The second person pronoun appears to be "un", though.
no_time 4y ago
>I'd say that something that helped a lot was that in early 2000s there wasn't that much people speaking English in Budapest. So, no cheating. The situation has changed quite a lot since then. My former english teacher (monolingual english speaker). regularly complained about people being too quick to whip out their Hello Turist[0] sounding english instead of replying in Hungarian these days. [0]: https://youtube.com/watch?v=tsznw_eXpEs https://youtube.com/watch?v=tsznw_eXpEs
- diegoeche 4y ago
  I went back in 2013, and is crazy how much everything is changed. So many startups and way more immigrants. Don't doubt it.

ricardobayes 4y ago

Being a native speaker I never considered the example you mention, but it's definitely weird. To express "I have X" in Hungarian you would say "There is X", but X has an extra letter 'm', usually with an accent of the letter before it. "There is an apple" = "Van egy alma" "I have an apple" = "Van egy almám" As the article pointed out Hungarian language possibly has origins in Kazahstan and Mongolia, there is some similarity in the names of places to present-day Hungarian words (Alma Ata, Ulan Bator). alma = apple ata (atya) = father bator (bátor) = brave No one is quite sure as proto-Hungarians wandered the steppes and left no written notes. What we know is they spent a lot of time in Levédia, present day Ukraine and Russia by the river Volga. https://hu.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lev%C3%A9dia https://hu.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lev%C3%A9dia (article in hungarian)

cyberpunk 4y ago

> Not only that, I guess what what made everything just not worthy was Germans giving you shit every time you make a mistake, or your 5-vowel mother language makes it hard to pronounce things. Not only that, but then if you make mistakes you get judged immediately as somebody that "didn't want to integrate". This isn't my experience at all, as a non-native German speaker living in Berlin with a half German child. > People would generalize and now, after 10 years. With 2 half-german daughters I don't want to learn the language. Trust me, you're being judged (fairly, imo) a lot more harshly for living somewhere for a decade and not even bothering to learn the local language.

aa-jv 4y ago
Its a lot harder to be an English-speaker living in Germany than you might think. NOBODY wants to listen to your shitty botched German (and trust me, it'll be botched for a while) and instead, almost everyone you meet will want to practice their English instead. All it takes is a few sentences in German, though, before the judgement dissipates and the "lets take the piss out of this guy speaking German by speaking 'perfect' English at a much higher level of competence" takes over .. It adds up though. Speak your shitty German to strangers, and you'll gain a lot more friends.
diegoeche 4y ago
> Trust me, you're being judged (fairly, imo) a lot more harshly for living somewhere for a decade and not even bothering to learn the local language. I had 2 years in Goethe institute. And had lessons 2 times a week at work. Kept a handbook at all times with vocabulary to repeat it in the subway. And mingled with German people to escape the expat bubble. I'm in B1 in German standards. But that's precisely the same judgement of "not even bothering" I normally get. After so much of that, after 3 years I just gave up.

aa-jv 4y ago

English-as-mother-tongue speaker here, currently living in a German-speaking country, also with two kids who have been raised with both English and German spoken in our household, giving them a huge edge at school with near-perfect English scores since day one .. My experience with the Germans not wanting to speak German with you while you stumble over everything, is simply that they want to exercise their own English, and its just not as fun for them to wait for your marble-mouthed nonsense to parse. ;) But its not, in my experience, due to any xenophobia or general prejudice - more of a fact that its a lot of fun to speak a non-native language with a native-speaker. Germans are after that "I can speak English well enough!" acknowledgement, which - unless you've really, really studied hard for it - you won't really get to experience, either, speaking German .. for a few years, I imagine. But, its really important to keep up your skills no matter what your friends and family do to dissuade you. I'm at the point, 15 years into life in a German-speaking country, where I can speak near-flawless German with strangers consistently, but any time I try with someone who is familiar with me, it turns into an embarrassing mess .. But I encourage you to keep trying, its really fun!

NanoCoaster 4y ago
> My experience with the Germans not wanting to speak German with you while you stumble over everything, is simply that they want to exercise their own English, and its just not as fun for them to wait for your marble-mouthed nonsense to parse. ;) As a German, my reason for switching to English quickly was always along the lines of "oh no, they're struggling to communicate with me! I feel bad. Let's make it easier for everyone and switch to English". This applies especially when talking to English native speakers, but, weirdly enough, also for others - I feel better when I also have to suffer by talking in a non-native language. Doesn't really make sense, I know :) I've talked to other Germans about this a few times and many of them agreed that this was their way of thinking in these situations. I get that this behavior can come across as condescending and I absolutely understand the frustration about it when trying to exercise one's German skills. So nowadays, when this happens (which is quite rare anyway), I try to just stick to German. I'm a bit puzzled why people would learn German out of all languages anyway, apart from living here obviously, so I'm always happy when someone does. Also, I obviously can't speak for the whole German population and sadly there's definitely some xenophobia to be found wherever you look.

egeozcan 4y ago

> I'd say there are some very weird things about the language. I had to wait until my second semester to be able to say "I have X". There's no such verb as "having" in hungarian, but you use possessive + being to indicate you have something. And we only learnt possessive suffixes in 2nd semester. The same is also true for Turkish: Bende elma var = I have an apple Bende = Ben (me) - de (possesive), elma = apple, var = exists. Turkish also has a lot of common words with Hungarian and no gender also like in Hungarian. Even the politics look as bad as each other, hehe. Sometimes I think there must be some more connection to these 2 societies than what you can find in Wikipedia. I speak little to none Hungarian, and a lot of Turkish, and this broken English you can read here but I disagree, learning German wasn't that hard and for all the errors I make when speaking, nobody bats an eye. Edit: I realize you said Berlin. Oh man, what can I tell you... There, I also had hard time speaking German, and the first mistake you make they directly switch to English to be friendly. There's something like overshooting it when you are being helpful to foreigners :) I tried to order beer and said "Bier bitte!" and the waitress asked, in English, "You want a beer?", same happened when asking for directions. This never ever happens in Hessen and I sort of like it that way. Disclaimer: Author is a person of somewhat Turkish origin living happily in Germany who also loves the Hungarian language and culture.

dmurray 4y ago
> The same is also true for Turkish: Something similar in Irish: Tá úll agam = is (an) apple at me. In this case it's the preposition "ag" that gets conjugated differently for at me, at you, at him... instead of the subject as in Turkish or the object in the Hungarian example. Agat = at you. Or for feelings: Tá ocras orm = is hunger on me. Ort = on you. Children learn example sentences like these early in their mandatory Irish classes, though they don't start to memorize the lists of conjugations until a few years later. This seems like a reasonable approach, but the classes are staggeringly ineffective at actually teaching the language so we must be doing something wrong. It's interesting how often m means me, and t or d means thou, across all kinds of European languages.
- DonaldFisk 4y ago
  > Tá úll agam = is (an) apple at me. In this case it's the preposition "ag" that gets conjugated differently for at me, at you, at him... instead of the subject as in Turkish or the object in the Hungarian example. Agat = at you. > Or for feelings: Tá ocras orm = is hunger on me. Ort = on you. Same, except for spelling differences, for its very close relative, Scottish Gaelic. > It's interesting how often m means me, and t or d means thou, across all kinds of European languages. Most European languages are related, but it also applies to Finnish: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Finnish_verb_conjugation https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Finnish_verb_conjugation , which is not Indoeuropean. Also, the Etruscan (also non-Indoeuropean) first person pronoun is "mi": "mi spanti larices" = I am Larice's plate". The second person pronoun appears to be "un", though.

no_time 4y ago

>I'd say that something that helped a lot was that in early 2000s there wasn't that much people speaking English in Budapest. So, no cheating. The situation has changed quite a lot since then. My former english teacher (monolingual english speaker). regularly complained about people being too quick to whip out their Hello Turist[0] sounding english instead of replying in Hungarian these days. [0]: https://youtube.com/watch?v=tsznw_eXpEs https://youtube.com/watch?v=tsznw_eXpEs

diegoeche 4y ago
I went back in 2013, and is crazy how much everything is changed. So many startups and way more immigrants. Don't doubt it.