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The wording is a bit confrontational. I'd just ask if this is a good time. Otherwise, we can reschedule. Then, I can decide later whether I will actually resc
by ergocoder 4y ago
The wording is a bit confrontational.
I'd just ask if this is a good time. Otherwise, we can reschedule.
Then, I can decide later whether I will actually reschedule.
It is never a good idea to add shading like that.
- throwaway_1928 4y agoOr not confrontational enough.
- s1artibartfast 4y agoI dont think it is shade, it is direct and to the point.
- saila 4y agoThe advice to not add "shade" seems to be predicated on some perceived power differential, but everyone's time is equally valuable. Regardless, I don't see any shade. It's just direct and to the point.
- ergocoder 4y ago"Shade" is subjective. It is better to ensure there is no shade at all. > perceived power differential Not really. It is game theory. You earn nothing by throwing shade apart from emotional satisfaction. It is only beneficial to go above and beyond to ensure nobody feels any shade to anybody. You never what you will need in the future. > everyone's time is equally valuable Trying to repeat a tautological statement is a shade, IMO.
- ipaddr 4y agoGame theory without taking human memory and emotion is flawed. If you never see the person again and you've held your head high you will feel more confident. If you play game theory the emotional damage might haunt your next interview.
- ergocoder 4y agoThis is why having developing high EQ is important. Getting revenge emotionally is a passing pleasure with no real benefit. There is only possible downsides. This is why high EQ people are generally more successful.
- Ozzie_osman 4y agoThe wording might be, but it's hard to convey the tone, and in my opinion, my co-founder's tone was both forceful and polite. I wouldn't have been able to pull it off myself.