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Having sat on many panels I'll suggest there might be reasons why someone might seem rude. After a great curry the night before I once had to interview holding
by nonrandomstring 4y ago
Having sat on many panels I'll suggest there might be reasons why
someone might seem rude. After a great curry the night before I once
had to interview holding back what we call "Gandhi's revenge" around
here. The scowl on my face probably terrified the poor kid, and then I
made a dash for the toilet.
Practice interacting and being in a professional conversant situation
without reading too deeply into what you think is going on for the
other person. Accept the situation on face value with the best and
worst interpretations in mind, but not in effect. That's good for
negotiating too. If you feel on the defensive because of an implied
power relation, or misunderstanding, hold that thought, wait and see,
it could get interesting.
Since you allocated the time anyway, make the best of a recon
opportunity. If the interviewer is being rude, the fact that you are
unruffled makes you the bigger person. Smile politely and you may
unbalance them. Save any grand decision for the end.
- johnwheeler 4y agoI disagree. It’s unnatural to ignore nonverbal communication. If you had to take a shit and you were talking to the CEO of the company, wouldn’t you do your best to hide that scowl and be polite?
- bcrosby95 4y agoWhy not just be open about it?
- Shish2k 4y ago> It’s unnatural to ignore nonverbal communication In my experience, most people do pay a lot of attention to nonverbal communication… and they're really awful at interpreting it. Basically taking any vague body motion as evidence in favour of their preconceived ideas :/ My communications got noticably smoother when I made a conscious decision to ignore the majority of nonverbal communication; and if it seemed like somebody was trying to say something, I’d explicitly say “Hey, I get the impression that you’re <angry/sad/etc>, am I reading that correctly?” and go from there rather than assuming.
- evandale 4y ago> and if it seemed like somebody was trying to say something, I’d explicitly say “Hey, I get the impression that you’re <angry/sad/etc>, am I reading that correctly?” and go from there rather than assuming. I like this and am going to try it!
- goodpoint 4y agoOne can very easily say "sorry I don't feel well" and walk out immediately.