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Early in my career one of my bosses also recommended that I read "How to Win Friends and Influence People", so I just wanted to give it a second vote. If you t

by egiva 15y ago

Early in my career one of my bosses also recommended that I read "How to Win Friends and Influence People", so I just wanted to give it a second vote. If you take it seriously the book will definitely set you on the right path, or at least open up your thought processes to new possibilities for thinking about your relationships at work, with loved ones, etc. There's no silver bullet that helps us address all of life's problems, big and small, but definitely check out the book as an easy first step - you can probably find a copy at any second hand bookstore for a few bucks.

0x12 15y ago
Make sure you mean it though. Plenty of people that have read that book come across as insincere, fake and borderline manipulative.
- egiva 15y ago
  That's very true, especially because the book is a type of sales bible for convincing people to buy things they shouldn't otherwise buy! But if you focus on the broad strokes and try to remain true to yourself, then you'll hopefully avoid insincerity altogether. Wouldn't it be great if somebody wrote a modern-day take on "How to win friends and influence people"? - less sales-y and more relevant to social issues that young people struggle with today?
- ahoyhere 15y ago
  Plenty of people who haven't read that book come across as insincere, fake, and borderline manipulative. All thru-out the book, Dale Carnegie tells you that you must be genuine in order for it to be ethical.
davidcuddeback 15y ago
Just last week, I pulled that book off my shelf to help me draft a response to my boss regarding a disagreement. The result was that we had a pleasant discussion and came to an understanding that avoided any negative feelings (and the lack of motivation that comes with them) in the workplace. "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is definitely worth a read (and worth keeping around for reference).
- caw 15y ago
  Funny enough; it's sitting next to me right now. I started reading the book right before my new job but stopped because of moving and stuff. I was going to pick it back up today. I've got the new version. You can definitely tell what's updated and what's not but that doesn't detract from the message. As it says in the book, read with something to mark it with. I regretted not writing down or bookmarking the marxisms as I was reading; I'm going to have to go through and copy them down to refer to faster.

by egiva 15y ago

0x12 15y ago

Make sure you mean it though. Plenty of people that have read that book come across as insincere, fake and borderline manipulative.

egiva 15y ago
That's very true, especially because the book is a type of sales bible for convincing people to buy things they shouldn't otherwise buy! But if you focus on the broad strokes and try to remain true to yourself, then you'll hopefully avoid insincerity altogether. Wouldn't it be great if somebody wrote a modern-day take on "How to win friends and influence people"? - less sales-y and more relevant to social issues that young people struggle with today?
ahoyhere 15y ago
Plenty of people who haven't read that book come across as insincere, fake, and borderline manipulative. All thru-out the book, Dale Carnegie tells you that you must be genuine in order for it to be ethical.

davidcuddeback 15y ago

Just last week, I pulled that book off my shelf to help me draft a response to my boss regarding a disagreement. The result was that we had a pleasant discussion and came to an understanding that avoided any negative feelings (and the lack of motivation that comes with them) in the workplace. "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is definitely worth a read (and worth keeping around for reference).

caw 15y ago
Funny enough; it's sitting next to me right now. I started reading the book right before my new job but stopped because of moving and stuff. I was going to pick it back up today. I've got the new version. You can definitely tell what's updated and what's not but that doesn't detract from the message. As it says in the book, read with something to mark it with. I regretted not writing down or bookmarking the marxisms as I was reading; I'm going to have to go through and copy them down to refer to faster.