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> I think your post paints a false dichotomy Nope. Never said it is "always a choice between working from home and commuting huge distances to an office in a c
by twayt 4y ago
> I think your post paints a false dichotomy
Nope. Never said it is "always a choice between working from home and commuting huge distances to an office in a city you hate".
It is a counterpoint to the original comment that hypothesizes that most people who enjoy working from home do so due to some social deficit.
> people who don't find it as easy as others to form relationships with colleagues in real life
If you read my comment carefully you would notice that I mentioned I already have great relationships with my colleagues that have persisted through remote work. So not sure where that inference is coming from.
Second, I am not going to take it the wrong way, but your comment makes it seem like you have some insight into a complete stranger's life without any information to go off of. I would probably not be so overconfident in making such statements about someone else's life.
Putting that aside, your reasoning seems incomplete. Why does finding socializing events at work stressful imply someone doesn't find it easy to form relationships with colleagues in real life? Surely it depends on how the colleagues behave in those settings and the nature of those events does it not?
For example, grabbing lunch with a coworker is very different from contrived board game events where everyone is trying to compete for who the smartest person is and people make awkward comments linking their board game talents to their work competence.
> experiencing sexual tension if there is a worker of the opposite sex
I don't feel the need to debate this point at all. If you are a human with a healthy mental and hormonal profile and are around someone you find attractive, you will inevitably find yourself in a situation where you need to suppress certain feelings that may be sexual in nature in order to work with them. It can be done and is usually done without a second thought, but it takes effort and is a lot easier to do over video conferencing. It is human to have certain impulses, be it sexual, status oriented or fight/flight related when you're physically surrounded by people. They need to be dealt with effectively in order to be productive and even keeled.
- Closi 4y ago> Second, I am not going to take it the wrong way, but your comment makes it seem like you have some insight into a complete stranger's life without any information to go off of. I mean it was just a hunch, but looking at your comment history definitely implies it too. For instance, while your response states that you are comfortable getting lunch your post history says this: > Feel like a social failure during lunch and forced to sit passively as a couple douchebag workers on adderall dominate the conversation? [I] Feel like a bitch for a few hours. Which implies the opposite. > Attractive coworker or someone I want to impress within sight? I can’t concentrate on actual productivity and try to overcompensate by typing more and acting zoned in. > I find that I get more emotionally jerked around working in person and can insulate myself from it working from home. I mean all this seems to follow the same idea. It’s totally cool, each to their own and it’s fine, but to me this matches the trend that some people working from home don’t seem to have the same ease at forming relationships in work in real life.
- twayt 4y ago> Which implies the opposite. You have no way of determining that unless you're in the same environment. For someone who's usually successful socially, it is an utter shame to have to sit through the lunch and be forced to listen to a couple of idiots hopped who can't shut up. Would you want to be in that situation? The other two comments have no bearing whatsoever on your point. The first one describes what it is like to be distracted. Replace attractive coworker with anything else. The second one is a natural response to the frictions present in real life. Sounds like you're desperately trying to cast someone into a role so that you can feel better about yourself. You sound like you might have social deficits you're trying to overcome yourself based on your comments that show a lack of understanding of what socializing at work feels like for a lot of people.
- Closi 4y ago> [...] based on your comments you show a lack of understanding of what socializing at work feels like for a lot of people. So you agree that socialising at work is more difficult for some people than others... And you agree that it's one of the reasons you work from home... And the part of my premise that you were disagreeing with was that I said some people work from home because they struggle to create relationships while at work... But you have stated is true for you when working in an office environment... So... It sounds like you at least partially agree? Or is there something I am missing?
- twayt 4y ago> So you agree that socialising at work is more difficult for some people than others... That statement paints an incomplete picture of my views. It is the combination of the person and environment. I'm sure there is variance among peoples' inherent ability to socialize at work, but in certain work environments, people who are otherwise good at socializing don't have the desire to socialize or don't find it meaningful. > And you agree that it's one of the reasons you work from home... Nope, I have no problem socializing at my current job. Most of my comments are about prior workplaces. I mention them because I can empathize with a lot of people who might be working in such environments. Like I mentioned, I can and do socialize with my current colleagues well remotely, which I consider to be "socializing at work" too. > And the part of my premise that you were disagreeing with was that I said some people work from home because they struggle to create relationships while at work... Nope, I never disagreed with that. I disagree with your characterization that that is the reason I work from home.