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This is grossly inaccurate. Sure, it's possible that someone can just be socially stunted in a way that looks "autistic" to non-autistic people. But that's not
by banannaise 4y ago
This is grossly inaccurate. Sure, it's possible that someone can just be socially stunted in a way that looks "autistic" to non-autistic people. But that's not at all what autism is.
I'm autistic. I have a great understanding of my own emotional state and how it affects my mental function, and I often use this understanding to get myself out of situations before they deteriorate into me having a breakdown. Meanwhile you have allistic people everywhere who will neglect to eat and gradually start getting angry at everything with no awareness of what's going on. Who's the one lacking emotional intelligence?
I'm also perfectly fine at understanding most social norms; I just find a lot of them ridiculous, irritating, and counterproductive, so I'm inclined to fight against them, which goes variously well or poorly depending on the audience. (It tends to go very well around other autistic people!)
- callesgg 4y agoMost social norms make perfect sense. They have evolved from reasons that make sense in the context where they are performed.
- banannaise 4y agoSocial norms are emergent, but not all emergent behavior is good. If they were correct, you wouldn't expect them to vary so heavily between cultures. (The variance is particularly noticeable when you start looking at cultures that were not heavily conquered and/or colonized.)
- callesgg 4y ago"Correct" and "good" depends on the context where you evaluate. example: Shaking peoples hands is a strange social norm and a risk for spreading infections. But it is a useful interaction that you can play out when you are interacting with someone.