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Helicopter parenting messes kids up in a whole different way that’s often even worse. Kids are going to like things parents try to keep away from them. They li
by grapeskin 4y ago
Helicopter parenting messes kids up in a whole different way that’s often even worse.
Kids are going to like things parents try to keep away from them. They like things that are cool with their peers. They like doing things parents tell them not to do. They’ll find ways to do things their peers are all doing even if you try to block them entirely.
Kids who were banned from those alleged MTV videos simply watched them at a friend’s house and had the smarts to not let their parents know.
- betwixthewires 4y agoDeciding how you're going to raise your kids is not helicopter parenting. Going through the hoops and figuring out how to do the things your parents don't want you to do is a healthy part of growing up, any parent that doesn't take that into account and actually thinks they're going to stop their kid from becoming an adult is making a mistake. The goals are to remove easy access to damaging material, and to make them do difficult, clever things to get around it, and to make them think you don't know so that they don't outwardly demonstrate exposure. This limits exposure to the worst of what is out there, teaches them agency and problem solving skills, and prevents them from heavily internalizing whatever they are exposed to. Yes, when they reach a certain age when they start to want to do things on their own, they'll find ways to be exposed to what they want to be exposed to. There's nothing wrong with this.