I completely disagree with the first two points. As to the last point, why do you need to follow anyone's expectations? Your data and personal servers are there

I completely disagree with the first two points. As to the last point, why do you need to follow anyone's expectations? Your data and personal servers are there to serve you first and foremost. If you want give people access, that's fine. I just don't see why you would feel obliged to do so.