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In my opinion, the answer has always been to participate in group activities that cover something you're interested in, as it gives an easy starting point to be
by thdc 4y ago
In my opinion, the answer has always been to participate in group activities that cover something you're interested in, as it gives an easy starting point to begin a friendship. For me, it is either games or certain coding niches.
As a non-user of Twitter, I don't think its organization is conducive to easily finding friends - instead of focused individual communities, I believe it is more free-form (?) as a result of "the algorithm" determining your interests. Which could be considered a plus because of discovery as noted in the article.
I do see how you could extrapolate similar interests from other users based on their tweets or replies and bootstrap a friendship from that as the author mentions (kind of risky when dealing with anonymized opinions about controversial topics or just straight up lies), but it seems like much more work compared to participating in a group which you know already shares that interest.
To summarize, finding friends on Twitter is kind of like shooting in the dark.
However I initially missed the main point of the post because it was stuck towards the bottom after the list.
> translat(ing) these (online connections) into offline connections.
So now my question is why do you need to make your online connections offline? I have good friendships that are ongoing for years with people that I've only met online and have never felt the need to meet them offline. Note that I don't consider setting up an irl meeting online then meeting them irl as "making friends on the internet" unless I have been regularly interacting for a while already in somewhat private circumstances (like daily casual talk or playing games together).
- jborichevskiy 4y ago> So now my question is why do you need to make your online connections offline? I don't believe it a necessity, and there are some online friends I probably won't be able to meet for a while, if ever. But I enjoy moving a conversation offline because no online interface can replicate wandering between parks in Los Angeles and having pizza slices together. Though interfaces can still allow plenty of unique forms of expression -- just vastly different from embodied exploration and reacting to the world together. > To summarize, finding friends on Twitter is kind of like shooting in the dark. Aptly put. Not unlike dating apps or applying to jobs or talking to strangers at bars. It's just one additional avenue for meeting people. You mention the separation between individuals getting algorithmically sorted and interest-based topics. In my experience I find twitter to be both: emergent scenes or corners form by a bunch of independent actors interacting with one another regularly, even though not all are following one another. The edges are fuzzy and overlapping but they have much more "placeness" than an endless feed, even if it is in fact experienced through a feed.