I just want to reply to really stress the first point. As I grow older (late 20s now) more and more “failures” that still upset me can be traced back to your fi

I just want to reply to really stress the first point. As I grow older (late 20s now) more and more “failures” that still upset me can be traced back to your first point. Coming to terms and changing my behavior based on what works for me has been hard but so much more effective. When there are no external motivators (work), it’s not doable for me to wake up on time and get started early. Trying to force myself into this ideal caused me to fail, have the day feel wasted at 13:00 and then get stuck and not get anything done. Which, you guessed it, leads to a great spiral of being upset with yourself. Accepting this has been the biggest change in both happiness and productivity (these are very correlated for me). So again, try and frame things in a way that works for you. Don’t be afraid to abandon an idealistic view when in the back of your mind somewhere you think “This doesn’t fit me”. Then again, I think the only way to learn this is through failure and time.