The unintended irony of those who throw around "bourgeois" in this context is amusing. Historically, the classes that discounted sexual mores have been the poor

The unintended irony of those who throw around "bourgeois" in this context is amusing. Historically, the classes that discounted sexual mores have been the poor and the wealthy and powerful elite. The latter already have long standing social mechanisms for maintaining their social position, and the former are under economic pressures that undermine moral and ethical considerations. It is basically the middle classes that definitively require stable families. So unless OP is manor born -- the working classes do not have leisure time to spend time on HN -- OP is likely a product of a petite-bourgois family who has not really understood the vital necessity of sexual mores for their class.