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If we reframe this into societal terms, so that this doesn't get dragged into a "not all men want that" argument, why is it that most modern societies had/has r
by hhjinks 4y ago
If we reframe this into societal terms, so that this doesn't get dragged into a "not all men want that" argument, why is it that most modern societies had/has rigid, monogamous family units? There are stereotypes for both promiscuous men and women, and clearly there's some degree of promiscuity in both genders. But the (vast?) majority of societies also adopted monogamous family units for most social classes. If men and women are promiscuous by nature, which forces led to the family unit in modern societies? Or perhaps that's just an illusion? How common was it to have a paramour anyway?
- jdrc 4y agoobviously nonmonogamous communities did not survive so what we see may be survivor bias. Nowadays however it IS becoming possible for nonmonogamous socieites to survive due to our superior technology. Hopefully there will be better studies out there than my office-chair evopsych.
- ZephyrBlu 4y ago1) Societal stability 2) Most men are not capable of being promiscuous, even if they want to be
- solenoidalslide 4y agoI think you meant to say that most men are not capable of polygamy? I would very much think that most men are capable of promiscuity.
- ZephyrBlu 4y agoBy capable I mean able to execute. Most men struggle to find a single partner to be monogamous with, let alone multiple partners.
- solenoidalslide 4y agoWhy would that be the goal? Men who have a partner still have the option to pursue sex outside of a relationship. Many simply pay for that type of sexual relationship with no "struggles" you speak of.
- ZephyrBlu 4y agoDefine "many". I highly doubt that a majority of men have ever paid for sex, let alone having paid for sex while they're in a relationship. Also, part of the allure of promiscuity is being able to attract/seduce multiple women. Paying for sex eliminates that.
- solenoidalslide 4y agoDo people not use money as a proxy for power/status?
- bradlys 4y agoThis is really not polyamory or non-monogamy in the way you’re framing it. Paying for sex outside of your marriage isn’t really non-monogamy in my book - it’s just sad.
- solenoidalslide 4y agoThe original argument is that monogamy is in place because men cannot get sex elsewhere. That is obviously not true. The point being that men also desire faithful long-term companionship. The ones who want casual sex or multiple partners still obtain that even in our monogamy-by-law society.