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Don't you think a decision that might affect your whole life is worth overthinking? Why couldn't dating be analyzed by logic? If you want a lasting relationshi

• MezzoDelCammin 4y ago
  Oh, I completely agree on the importance of the decision. I'm also not against using logic in general. Where I disagree is that I don't think any of "my" dates could be generalized. Nor would I like my counterparts to do so. Why and how we date and what do we expect from a relationship is (IMO) one of the deepest individual characteristics of ourselves. I agree with the article author on that we should learn to ask these questions of ourselves and of others, but that's about it. I don't think the answers (or even how do You get to them) can or should be in any way generalized. Some may get to express it through religion, some may use philosophy, or even logic. Most of those will probably run contrary to many others. Meeting someone for a date is frustrating and exciting often at the same time and often for the same reason - that it's something completely new and (hopefully) unexpected. If I look back on my own dating life, the dates / relationships I enjoyed most were those where the things we've shared were as varied as those where we differed. And the memorable part was usually the process of discovery, compromises, and learning to deal with each other. I don't think any of this "can" be generalized in a self help post.