The phrase used to be "Actions speak louder than words." If someone is perpetually unavailable, they're perpetually unavailable. Of course it's clearer if the

The phrase used to be "Actions speak louder than words." If someone is perpetually unavailable, they're perpetually unavailable. Of course it's clearer if the other person says "I just don't think we're a good match", but actionable ambiguity is much more common.