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I cannot relate with the whole "dating" thing one bit. It's not just that I am old now. All I hear is "apps" and silly comments on "how we this and that". I'd

I cannot relate with the whole "dating" thing one bit. It's not just that I am old now. All I hear is "apps" and silly comments on "how we this and that". I'd go as far as saying avoid people who spew things like "we" on the internet. It's crap. They don't know you, and you don't know them. Go to bars. They're full of young people looking for love. Don't fall into this app dating thing. It's a trap. Why else would they be tripping over to promote it?

curiousgal 4y ago
> Go to bars. They're full of young people looking for love. Are they though? I mean When I meet people through apps I know exactly what they're looking for. But approaching people I've met in person for the first time leads to a whole spew of issues mostly due to me not knowing what they're looking for (as most people tend not to be communicative about that as the article describes).
erfgh 4y ago
Dating by apps is terrible but bars are arguably even worse.
astrange 4y ago
> Go to bars. They're full of young people looking for love. Surprisingly this may still be true (I thought people didn't drink as much these days) but it's significantly less common than apps for couples now. https://www.pnas.org/doi/pdf/10.1073/pnas.1908630116 https://www.pnas.org/doi/pdf/10.1073/pnas.1908630116 Also not very popular for lesbians. https://www.graphext.com/post/how-couples-meet-and-stay-together https://www.graphext.com/post/how-couples-meet-and-stay-toge...
- Mezzie 4y ago
  I'm a lesbian who despises dating online. I've just accepted I'm going to be single.
  - astrange 4y ago
    I heard you're supposed to meet someone in a bookstore then get married on the second date.
t-3 4y ago
Personally, I've never gone to a bar looking for love (and rarely ever even looking for sex). I just wanted to get drunk in a different atmosphere. Every relationship has come through either friends/acquaintances or random encounters + striking up a conversation.
Zababa 4y ago
> Go to bars. They're full of young people looking for love. The issue with going to bars is that you meet the kind of people that go to bars looking for love. I don't go to bars looking for love, and I doubt I would have much in common with someone who does. The same thing applies to dating apps by the way, I've never used one and don't plan on using one. I've met all my best friends by following my interests in a relatively social space. This ensures that I have something in common with the people I meet, and filters people to be people closer to me than people going to bars or using dating apps.
Der_Einzige 4y ago
Outside of swinger bars, the culture of hitting on people at bars is dead, at least in the PNW. Swinger bars it's still around, but partly because they're less of a sausage fest due to the crazy door fees for men...

curiousgal 4y ago

> Go to bars. They're full of young people looking for love. Are they though? I mean When I meet people through apps I know exactly what they're looking for. But approaching people I've met in person for the first time leads to a whole spew of issues mostly due to me not knowing what they're looking for (as most people tend not to be communicative about that as the article describes).

erfgh 4y ago

Dating by apps is terrible but bars are arguably even worse.

astrange 4y ago

> Go to bars. They're full of young people looking for love. Surprisingly this may still be true (I thought people didn't drink as much these days) but it's significantly less common than apps for couples now. https://www.pnas.org/doi/pdf/10.1073/pnas.1908630116 https://www.pnas.org/doi/pdf/10.1073/pnas.1908630116 Also not very popular for lesbians. https://www.graphext.com/post/how-couples-meet-and-stay-together https://www.graphext.com/post/how-couples-meet-and-stay-toge...

Mezzie 4y ago
I'm a lesbian who despises dating online. I've just accepted I'm going to be single.
- astrange 4y ago
  I heard you're supposed to meet someone in a bookstore then get married on the second date.

t-3 4y ago

Personally, I've never gone to a bar looking for love (and rarely ever even looking for sex). I just wanted to get drunk in a different atmosphere. Every relationship has come through either friends/acquaintances or random encounters + striking up a conversation.

Zababa 4y ago

> Go to bars. They're full of young people looking for love. The issue with going to bars is that you meet the kind of people that go to bars looking for love. I don't go to bars looking for love, and I doubt I would have much in common with someone who does. The same thing applies to dating apps by the way, I've never used one and don't plan on using one. I've met all my best friends by following my interests in a relatively social space. This ensures that I have something in common with the people I meet, and filters people to be people closer to me than people going to bars or using dating apps.

Der_Einzige 4y ago

Outside of swinger bars, the culture of hitting on people at bars is dead, at least in the PNW. Swinger bars it's still around, but partly because they're less of a sausage fest due to the crazy door fees for men...