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'Modern Dating' is where corporations intermediate your interactions with the other sex... and its not working out well? Well, what a surprise! People have l

'Modern Dating' is where corporations intermediate your interactions with the other sex... and its not working out well? Well, what a surprise! People have lost all sense it seems to me - we have been trained to have technology do everything for us. This really means the corporations behind the tech are meant to do everything for us. Good god. The mega-trend - IMO - in all this is a fostered neoteny (extended juvenile period) where our expectations are that someone should service our desires. Its such an irresponsible and weak position - it doesn't even register as a possibility to the younger generation that they should be able to sort things out on their own - benevolent tech companies should do it instead. Even a date is too much apparently. Humanity is being softened into a warm puree. PS If corporations are involved in the dating business (which they are) think about it from their point of view. They do not actually want you to succeed! They want you to fail but keep using their services. The more you fail the better! The more unhappy you are the more you will spend in your date-death spiral. Like we don't have a health industry but a managed illness industry, the dating industry would be better called a managed loneliness industry, cos loneliness and unhappiness opens the purse strings as you try to resolve your unhappiness with all the other crap corporations have to offer.

l33t2328 5y ago
> 'Modern Dating' is where corporations intermediate your interactions with the other sex... This seems to be the overwhelming sentiment when this topic comes up here, but I had to wonder: how much are you people relying on Tinder et al. ?
m000 5y ago
> The mega-trend - IMO - in all this is a fostered neoteny (extended juvenile period) where our expectations are that someone should service our desires. Its such an irresponsible and weak position - it doesn't even register as a possibility to the younger generation that they should be able to sort things out on their own - benevolent tech companies should do it instead. Even a date is too much apparently. Sorry, I don't buy this. Even working in the tech field, buying a house with your salary is really tough. And it only goes downhill for other types of jobs. So this "fostered neoteny" is just young people not feeling financially secure to start a traditional family. You can't possibly sort out generational financial insecurity on your own.
- jdrc 5y ago
  That's why people don't buy a house, live with parents longer, live as nomads etc. I don't share the pessimism around this - housing should be a commodity i can get at a touch of a button because it is easy to build (and i work remotely). There are interests preventing this though, so until then, anything goes
jawarner 5y ago
You make some big claims. 1. Apps or no, dating is still about interfacing with another person. It's hardly true that the dating app is "servicing our desires." It's not. It's just a window into another person. 2. "The more unhappy you are the more you will spend in your date-death spiral." Is this even a thing? I would imagine a very unhappy person would not date a lot. Or they would be settled into an unhappy relationship. Is it really true that dating has historically resulted in more happy relationships? I'd love to see evidence to this point because I know a lot of people whose parents were in unhappy relationships. That model, from my perspective, didn't have the best results.

l33t2328 5y ago

> 'Modern Dating' is where corporations intermediate your interactions with the other sex... This seems to be the overwhelming sentiment when this topic comes up here, but I had to wonder: how much are you people relying on Tinder et al. ?

m000 5y ago

> The mega-trend - IMO - in all this is a fostered neoteny (extended juvenile period) where our expectations are that someone should service our desires. Its such an irresponsible and weak position - it doesn't even register as a possibility to the younger generation that they should be able to sort things out on their own - benevolent tech companies should do it instead. Even a date is too much apparently. Sorry, I don't buy this. Even working in the tech field, buying a house with your salary is really tough. And it only goes downhill for other types of jobs. So this "fostered neoteny" is just young people not feeling financially secure to start a traditional family. You can't possibly sort out generational financial insecurity on your own.

jdrc 5y ago
That's why people don't buy a house, live with parents longer, live as nomads etc. I don't share the pessimism around this - housing should be a commodity i can get at a touch of a button because it is easy to build (and i work remotely). There are interests preventing this though, so until then, anything goes

jawarner 5y ago

You make some big claims. 1. Apps or no, dating is still about interfacing with another person. It's hardly true that the dating app is "servicing our desires." It's not. It's just a window into another person. 2. "The more unhappy you are the more you will spend in your date-death spiral." Is this even a thing? I would imagine a very unhappy person would not date a lot. Or they would be settled into an unhappy relationship. Is it really true that dating has historically resulted in more happy relationships? I'd love to see evidence to this point because I know a lot of people whose parents were in unhappy relationships. That model, from my perspective, didn't have the best results.