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I disagree with this. I've made plenty of friends outside of college. None of my friends are from college. A very select few are ex-coworkers, but most of my fr

I disagree with this. I've made plenty of friends outside of college. None of my friends are from college. A very select few are ex-coworkers, but most of my friends I have I found from shared interest groups or meeting them randomly. If you struggle with communication then I can understand the point of view. If you only experienced play dates when they were arranged then you never learned the social skills of walking up to someone who is doing something interesting and say "Hey, what is that? I'm curious to know more". Sometimes people will be annoyed. Sometimes they'll be thrilled you asked. The issue isn't that you aren't making friends after college. The issue is you have forgot how to talk to people (and likewise people have forgotten how to respond). If I'm doing something I'm interested in and someone comes up to me and asks me about it with genuine curiosity then I'm definitely going to talk to you. Obviously I'm using a figurative `you` and not literally, you.

ambrose2 5y ago
Clearly that only works if the shared interest is something you’re doing out in public where a stranger might come across you. But I’ve never had this experience. My hobbies range from at home ones to outdoor sports, but don’t include “tinkering with a thing out in public and someone walks up to me and starts chatting”, with the exception of a car stopping to ask me if I’m okay while I’m pumping up my road bicycle with some extra air.
- gabereiser 5y ago
  You mentioned road bicycle, are you involved in any group rides? Tinkering with a thing was just an example. I've gone out of my way to join groups doing all sorts of activities that I also enjoy. Snowboarding. Scuba. Bicycle riding. I dare you to just open up meetup or facebook or something and just go find a group ride to be a part of. Here where I live there's a monthly group bike ride that seems like the entire town is in on.

ambrose2 5y ago

Clearly that only works if the shared interest is something you’re doing out in public where a stranger might come across you. But I’ve never had this experience. My hobbies range from at home ones to outdoor sports, but don’t include “tinkering with a thing out in public and someone walks up to me and starts chatting”, with the exception of a car stopping to ask me if I’m okay while I’m pumping up my road bicycle with some extra air.

gabereiser 5y ago
You mentioned road bicycle, are you involved in any group rides? Tinkering with a thing was just an example. I've gone out of my way to join groups doing all sorts of activities that I also enjoy. Snowboarding. Scuba. Bicycle riding. I dare you to just open up meetup or facebook or something and just go find a group ride to be a part of. Here where I live there's a monthly group bike ride that seems like the entire town is in on.