Or just say what you mean within cultural norms. People know when they're being bullshitted with nice sounding boiler plate in my experience. A good rule to fo

Or just say what you mean within cultural norms. People know when they're being bullshitted with nice sounding boiler plate in my experience. A good rule to follow is to prefer being Kind rather than Nice. Kind is being blunt and honest. Nice is saying things nicely but not being clear on commitments (see: ruinous empathy).