I can't believe I came to write this and someone else had the same viewpoint, and well said I'll add. I don't know how, but I'd mostly grown up not caring what

I can't believe I came to write this and someone else had the same viewpoint, and well said I'll add. I don't know how, but I'd mostly grown up not caring what others are doing and doing 'my own thing'. Even in many circumstances when I look back and think 'a normal kid would have been embarrassed or mortified' I just rolled with it, all the while thinking I was normal. Later in life, I did ponder it and distilled it down to (a) identify my value system (b) do well by that value system (c) be open to updating my value system (d) take feedback in the context of our value systems--sometimes the feedback doesn't apply (e) try to imagine if the value system you die with is one you'll be okay with. Don't tell me 'I'm wrong' tell me how: I want to know if my actions are not aligned with my value system, or if my value system in use conflicts with deeply held or other chosen positions. If our value systems don't overlap sufficiently, we'll have to agree to disagree to the original point. It's like always viewing your future as a 'gradient ascent' and your past for analysis not judgement. Make the best you can of where you find yourself. I also feel very fortunate for the circumstances I found myself in, imagining that 'I' could have been any other person. The one thing I should feel bad about, much more frequently than I do, is not doing enough. I can sometimes be a workaholic, but with personal time I can be a couch potato when I know that I can be much more fit or social.