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Yeah. 18-20 was absolutely miserable for me. My arrogant ass chose to go directly bro industry (good decision, bad reasons) and I spent those years absolutely i

Yeah. 18-20 was absolutely miserable for me. My arrogant ass chose to go directly bro industry (good decision, bad reasons) and I spent those years absolutely isolated. Social venues for people that age not geared towards university populations feel non existent. When I tired 21 the situation improved a bit, but I still feel the lasting effects of that early isolation. Oddly I still don’t meet people are my age group. I go out and I see all sorts of people from teenagers to people well into their 80s-90s but almost never find myself in a conversation with a peer. Most of my current social group is with people who have 5-10 years in me. It’s particularly interesting as since I’ve been five years old, I’ve always made friends with “older kids” with about that gap.

ravenstine 5y ago
I can relate. Nearly all the friends and girlfriends I've ever had were a year or more older than I am, sometimes with a gap of 15 years. I don't really know why that is because, in retrospect, I was emotionally stunted until around my late 20's. Perhaps I had some other redeeming quality that made up for it which only older people could appreciate.
- the_only_law 5y ago
  > Nearly all the friends and girlfriends I've ever had were a year or more older than I am Sadly I’m it doesn’t really work for me. People lose interest nearly immediately when they find out I’m younger and turn to being condescending about instead. It’s also a lot less socially acceptable for a guy to be younger than a woman in a relationship I’ve learned. My parents chastised my stepbrother for dating a girl with a few years on him while my father has over a decade on my stepmother. Platonic relationships are a little easier but you will definitely notice a disconnect eventually.
incompatible 5y ago
I had a similar experience at that age, but I spent the years at university. I don't think I did it right, but I didn't have competent people lining up to give advice, and I had no Internet access in those days.
mattmar96 5y ago
I can relate. At 18 I made the same decision to go straight to industry with bad reasons as well. One thing that worked out for me was I had a girlfriend that was in college and got to socialize with that group.

ravenstine 5y ago

I can relate. Nearly all the friends and girlfriends I've ever had were a year or more older than I am, sometimes with a gap of 15 years. I don't really know why that is because, in retrospect, I was emotionally stunted until around my late 20's. Perhaps I had some other redeeming quality that made up for it which only older people could appreciate.

the_only_law 5y ago
> Nearly all the friends and girlfriends I've ever had were a year or more older than I am Sadly I’m it doesn’t really work for me. People lose interest nearly immediately when they find out I’m younger and turn to being condescending about instead. It’s also a lot less socially acceptable for a guy to be younger than a woman in a relationship I’ve learned. My parents chastised my stepbrother for dating a girl with a few years on him while my father has over a decade on my stepmother. Platonic relationships are a little easier but you will definitely notice a disconnect eventually.

incompatible 5y ago

I had a similar experience at that age, but I spent the years at university. I don't think I did it right, but I didn't have competent people lining up to give advice, and I had no Internet access in those days.

mattmar96 5y ago

I can relate. At 18 I made the same decision to go straight to industry with bad reasons as well. One thing that worked out for me was I had a girlfriend that was in college and got to socialize with that group.