I'm 6'1" but I can kind of get this, however it's just one factor out of many that are like this and are made worse by the whole toxic online dating scene in ge

I'm 6'1" but I can kind of get this, however it's just one factor out of many that are like this and are made worse by the whole toxic online dating scene in general. I'm 44 and have been married for 12 years so this is beyond me but my 20s were really rough. Men are just as bad but certainly my early 20s were dominated by getting rejected for having a nerdy job (SWE) or not being muscular enough/looking by a football player, whatever. When you're in your 20s and trying to date everyone is just superficial as anything. The fitness stuff was always funny cause I was more fit than 90% of people out on the dating market just I was an endurance type not a bodybuilder/muscle head/football player type which is obviously what is/was desirable for a lot of women. That gets even weirder as you get older as it's much easier as an endurance type to stay fit & healthy as you age. Things have changed and maybe it's not as biased against tech jobs these days. However in the early 2000s it was literally my experience women would instantly say "I'm out" if they heard I had a tech job, except for the odd case where they were clearly gold diggers and had already figured out this field was lucrative. In the end you just have to get through it.. by the time you start approaching 30 and everyone starts to grow up a lot of this stuff goes away. If you let stuff bother you there will always be something about yourself you can fixate on. It does sound like the last 10 years of online dating only got worse though, and amplified everything superficial.