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I'm a guy of median height and great fitness, and I had a partner recommend limb lengthening in passing to me once. At the time, I had no idea what it even was

I'm a guy of median height and great fitness, and I had a partner recommend limb lengthening in passing to me once. At the time, I had no idea what it even was but became disgusted as I learned the details. When I asked her why she would ever recommend such a thing, she said it was a joke. However, she had also purchased some pairs of 3 inch elevator shoes for me (also had no idea these were a thing) and insisted I wear them multiple occasions, despite me communicating how offensive the suggestion even was. When she suggested again that she expected me to wear them for the wedding and cared about it enough for it to become a shouting match, I knew for sure that something was VERY wrong. This, along with a dozen other reasons, caused me to call off the engagement. I'm still trying to make sense of it all. EDIT: It may also be relevant that she was also at least 4 inches shorter than me, so there was no risk of me looking shorter than her, even if she had heels on.

jackblemming 5y ago
I think you dodged a bullet, mate. I wonder how she would react if you recommended she get breast implants.
- Tao332 5y ago
Gatsky 5y ago
A breakup is always tough but consider yourself lucky it became obvious she was the wrong person before the sunk costs got too high. Often this is not the case. Speaking from personal experience relationships cause a kind of brain damage where it is hard to notice both the stop signs and the green lights.
dqpb 5y ago
I find it very strange that a partner would want this. Presumably the desire for a taller mate is fundamentally a desire for taller children. The procedure is obviously not inherited. This must have just been a cruel strategic denigration.
- Tao332 5y ago
  At least in this case it sounds more like it was a desire to own a particular showpiece.
- tsol 5y ago
  Why does anyone want to control their partner? I'm not sure exactly but it stinks of narcissism and shallowness
- scythe 5y ago
  This fundamentally misunderstands how evolution works. Evolution's tactic isn't to make you want things that lead to reproduction. Evolution tries to make you do things that lead to reproduction. The wanting is only applied if it's convenient. If the desire for tall men is evolutionarily based (which seems plausible, but has not been demonstrated) then that provides no reason to expect women consciously believe anything in particular about tall men — in fact, there's no guarantee that any other evolved behaviors are the direct realization of corresponding conscious desires, either. Evolution would be perfectly happy giving you a sexual interest for X useful trait without ever explaining to you why you like that. See also: "good with his hands".
prawn 5y ago
I think sometimes you just encounter a loon, and that's what it sounds like on this occasion. This doesn't sound like the sort of person you'd want to be married to, so I'd say you dodged a hefty bullet.

jackblemming 5y ago

I think you dodged a bullet, mate. I wonder how she would react if you recommended she get breast implants.

Tao332 5y ago

Gatsky 5y ago

A breakup is always tough but consider yourself lucky it became obvious she was the wrong person before the sunk costs got too high. Often this is not the case. Speaking from personal experience relationships cause a kind of brain damage where it is hard to notice both the stop signs and the green lights.

dqpb 5y ago

I find it very strange that a partner would want this. Presumably the desire for a taller mate is fundamentally a desire for taller children. The procedure is obviously not inherited. This must have just been a cruel strategic denigration.

Tao332 5y ago
At least in this case it sounds more like it was a desire to own a particular showpiece.
tsol 5y ago
Why does anyone want to control their partner? I'm not sure exactly but it stinks of narcissism and shallowness
scythe 5y ago
This fundamentally misunderstands how evolution works. Evolution's tactic isn't to make you want things that lead to reproduction. Evolution tries to make you do things that lead to reproduction. The wanting is only applied if it's convenient. If the desire for tall men is evolutionarily based (which seems plausible, but has not been demonstrated) then that provides no reason to expect women consciously believe anything in particular about tall men — in fact, there's no guarantee that any other evolved behaviors are the direct realization of corresponding conscious desires, either. Evolution would be perfectly happy giving you a sexual interest for X useful trait without ever explaining to you why you like that. See also: "good with his hands".

prawn 5y ago

I think sometimes you just encounter a loon, and that's what it sounds like on this occasion. This doesn't sound like the sort of person you'd want to be married to, so I'd say you dodged a hefty bullet.