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This is the kind of surgery I might expect someone who is closer to 5 feet might use to get nearer to normal range. I'm pretty much average myself (71 inches)

This is the kind of surgery I might expect someone who is closer to 5 feet might use to get nearer to normal range. I'm pretty much average myself (71 inches) and I wouldn't look at a 67 inch tall guy and think "wow he's short." He's still taller than the vast majority of women. I think the money would be better spent on therapy if it really is that depressing to be 5'7". Also, anybody making short jokes is a jerk and should be shamed. Anyone calling 5'7" short has some problems of their own to sort out.

pram 5y ago
They’re burying the lede on this story. This guy runs an OnlyFans where he gets paid to dominate other men. He psychologically wants to be taller because he doesn’t feel like his (completely unremarkable) height is appropriately dominating.
- meowface 5y ago
  You're reversing cause and effect: >Scott first heard about the procedure when he was in high school. He watched a few YouTube clips about it but dismissed it at the time. “I was like, ‘That’s sick, I would never do that.” But he kept researching, and about three years ago, he became convinced it was the solution he was looking for. “I felt miserable,” he said. “There were things throughout my day, every day, that would bother me. I felt attacked or unfairly criticized due to my height.” Then he had a revelation: “When I realized what was really holding me back was the obstacle of money, I was like, ‘Oh, it’s just a game. If I can get $75,000, then I’m done feeling like this.’” >The goal gave him clarity. “I was not waking up and crying every day in my mask, walking around the neighborhood. Instead, it became ‘OK, I just have to get on my grind and figure out how to get the money.’” So Scott, who is bi, got to work and, in February 2021, started an OnlyFans page. Within a few months on the platform, he zeroed in on a niche: financial domination, a form of humiliation kink where clients pay him to degrade them and take their money. By January 2022, by supplementing his OnlyFans earnings with some of his savings and a small loan, he had enough to pay for the procedure.
  - astrange 5y ago
    The real critique of findom is that most forms of it are probably financial crimes, or at least tax evasion. (Even on OF, did you report “donations” as gifts, tipped income, regular income? If it’s a gift, did the donor report it? That could matter eventually.)
  - stickfigure 5y ago
    I don't think we can fully trust the narrative. It seems unlikely that his niche is a coincidence, and it's fair to read personality characteristics into it.
  - Tao332 5y ago
    > You're reversing cause and effect Ehhh... I think it's pretty clear we're dealing with kind of a complicated anecdote here where it's not clear which ways the causality is flowing. It's more like a karmic diffraction pattern than something so linear as cause and effect.
faeriechangling 5y ago
I really hate the idea that people dealing with actual problems with objective evidence of being real problems should go to therapy at substantial cost to have somebody gaslight them into believing that their real problems don't matter. Sure somebody could have delusional views of how much their height matters, and such people could consider therapy, but I'd reckon most people glum about their height have a pretty objective view of it. The biggest issue I have with limb lengthening surgery is that it's expensive and likely to lead to a lifetime of pain and, lets be real, if you DO become genetically successful you're going to have your son be in the same position of subjecting himself to a lifetime of pain to be sexually successful. I guess my only advise is the controversial view that you should do nothing and shrug your shoulders at the arbitrary nature of the world. Maybe buy some heel lifts and wear them to your job interviews. Putin does it and it doesn't require you to experience a lifetime of pain. Lie about your height on the internet too.
- rootusrootus 5y ago
  > I really hate the idea that people dealing with actual problems with objective evidence of being real problems That's my point. If you're 25th percentile in height, you don't have an actual height problem. Treat the depression.
  - meowface 5y ago
    I would potentially agree, but how many of these people are 75th percentile (I assume that's what you meant) in height in their city? Global or national averages are pretty irrelevant for them.
  - q1w2 5y ago
    As studies have shown, 90% of women select the top 10% of men in online dating apps (with height being the #1 criteria) - so being in the bottom 25% is still an difficult circumstance.
sgtnoodle 5y ago
I'm 5'7" and don't recall ever being teased about my height specifically. Some of the bullies I grew up with were shorter than me. I certainly had a miserable time with online dating, and assumed height was a big factor, but it didn't make me feel short. My wife used to complain that she couldn't wear high heels while we were dating. We met on Tinder. I was insecure about balding in my 20's, but buzz cutting my hair solved that. I got teased about the buzz cut at work for a few days, but it was simply well intended humor due to folk noticing the change.

pram 5y ago

They’re burying the lede on this story. This guy runs an OnlyFans where he gets paid to dominate other men. He psychologically wants to be taller because he doesn’t feel like his (completely unremarkable) height is appropriately dominating.

meowface 5y ago
You're reversing cause and effect: >Scott first heard about the procedure when he was in high school. He watched a few YouTube clips about it but dismissed it at the time. “I was like, ‘That’s sick, I would never do that.” But he kept researching, and about three years ago, he became convinced it was the solution he was looking for. “I felt miserable,” he said. “There were things throughout my day, every day, that would bother me. I felt attacked or unfairly criticized due to my height.” Then he had a revelation: “When I realized what was really holding me back was the obstacle of money, I was like, ‘Oh, it’s just a game. If I can get $75,000, then I’m done feeling like this.’” >The goal gave him clarity. “I was not waking up and crying every day in my mask, walking around the neighborhood. Instead, it became ‘OK, I just have to get on my grind and figure out how to get the money.’” So Scott, who is bi, got to work and, in February 2021, started an OnlyFans page. Within a few months on the platform, he zeroed in on a niche: financial domination, a form of humiliation kink where clients pay him to degrade them and take their money. By January 2022, by supplementing his OnlyFans earnings with some of his savings and a small loan, he had enough to pay for the procedure.
- astrange 5y ago
  The real critique of findom is that most forms of it are probably financial crimes, or at least tax evasion. (Even on OF, did you report “donations” as gifts, tipped income, regular income? If it’s a gift, did the donor report it? That could matter eventually.)
- stickfigure 5y ago
  I don't think we can fully trust the narrative. It seems unlikely that his niche is a coincidence, and it's fair to read personality characteristics into it.
- Tao332 5y ago
  > You're reversing cause and effect Ehhh... I think it's pretty clear we're dealing with kind of a complicated anecdote here where it's not clear which ways the causality is flowing. It's more like a karmic diffraction pattern than something so linear as cause and effect.

faeriechangling 5y ago

I really hate the idea that people dealing with actual problems with objective evidence of being real problems should go to therapy at substantial cost to have somebody gaslight them into believing that their real problems don't matter. Sure somebody could have delusional views of how much their height matters, and such people could consider therapy, but I'd reckon most people glum about their height have a pretty objective view of it. The biggest issue I have with limb lengthening surgery is that it's expensive and likely to lead to a lifetime of pain and, lets be real, if you DO become genetically successful you're going to have your son be in the same position of subjecting himself to a lifetime of pain to be sexually successful. I guess my only advise is the controversial view that you should do nothing and shrug your shoulders at the arbitrary nature of the world. Maybe buy some heel lifts and wear them to your job interviews. Putin does it and it doesn't require you to experience a lifetime of pain. Lie about your height on the internet too.

rootusrootus 5y ago
> I really hate the idea that people dealing with actual problems with objective evidence of being real problems That's my point. If you're 25th percentile in height, you don't have an actual height problem. Treat the depression.
- meowface 5y ago
  I would potentially agree, but how many of these people are 75th percentile (I assume that's what you meant) in height in their city? Global or national averages are pretty irrelevant for them.
- q1w2 5y ago
  As studies have shown, 90% of women select the top 10% of men in online dating apps (with height being the #1 criteria) - so being in the bottom 25% is still an difficult circumstance.

sgtnoodle 5y ago

I'm 5'7" and don't recall ever being teased about my height specifically. Some of the bullies I grew up with were shorter than me. I certainly had a miserable time with online dating, and assumed height was a big factor, but it didn't make me feel short. My wife used to complain that she couldn't wear high heels while we were dating. We met on Tinder. I was insecure about balding in my 20's, but buzz cutting my hair solved that. I got teased about the buzz cut at work for a few days, but it was simply well intended humor due to folk noticing the change.