> What am I saying is that concerns about a lack of control over a life changing event are not trivial for either parent, and one of them is completely under th

> What am I saying is that concerns about a lack of control over a life changing event are not trivial for either parent, and one of them is completely under the control of the other in the event their limited choice (condom) fails. Ejaculations (can) have consequences The only thing that makes it non-trivial for males is child support - and that is a recent invention Social pressure and stigma on unwed mothers has been orders of magnitude stronger than for fathers That’s where shotgun weddings come from, to preserve honor and enforce social norms, making sure two parents take care of the kid