This is wrong, getting ~58k in your bank account from a 100k salary for a single is certainly what you can expect. The 75k you mention will only happen if your

This is wrong, getting ~58k in your bank account from a 100k salary for a single is certainly what you can expect. The 75k you mention will only happen if your spouse doesn't work at all, a rather disingenuous framing. If you're happy paying high taxes, you shouldn't feel the need to hide the real numbers (even if you're hiding by omission).