> How do I turn the wheel of time back and undo my career mistake. Time, insofar as the smartest minds of all generations up to this point know, is irreversibl

> How do I turn the wheel of time back and undo my career mistake. Time, insofar as the smartest minds of all generations up to this point know, is irreversible. Worry therefore not of what has been, but only of what is and what is to become. Dwelling on the past will only beget more dwelling on the past, and dwelling on the past is, by definition, not constructive. We accumulate memories so we could learn from the past. Figure out the lesson, integrate it into your self, and let go of the memory. > I feel incredibly stupid. I am losing confidence in making good decisions. In my experience, every moment of feeling clever is preceded by a moment of feeling stupid. That's the necessary step on the path of conscious evolution. The trick is keeping your faith in the process while you're riding out the lows. Feeling stupid is a necessary evil for you until you figure out how clever you are - or how clever you can be. It can help to reiterate memories of success in times of failure. Surely your life is not a sequence of only stupid decisions; therefore you shouldn't feel only stupid. Just... partially stupid. And that feeling of partial stupidity reveals a weakness in you. Some aspect of being you haven't fully brought into the unity of being you. There's room for improvement. Figure out how to work around this weakness or turn it into strength. > How do I deal with my feelings? The first step in my non-professional opinion is to take control of your feelings. Stop them from flowing freely. Then allow thin streams of emotion to flow in turn, and inspect them. Let, say, your anger surface for 1 hour while ruminating on it. Then put it back into the bottle and figure out if feeling the way you did is a sustainable pattern. Take note of where the feelings direct you. They can't speak, but they can point you towards the problem. > Should I seek professional help? Like every other decision in life this one has potential gains and an opportunity cost. Whenever the thought comes up, make a decision. Sometimes, reverse your decision and see how that makes you feel. At the end of the day though, theoreticals can only get you so far. You need experiential data to back up your assumptions. Do it and regret it later, or do something else and forget about it until it comes up again. Adjust your preferences based on how the decision impacted your life.